MERRY CHRISTMAS

Just wanted to wish everyone a Merry Christmas please be safe and remember the reason for the season.

Do you have with cheaters?

Would you continue to hang and trust a friend who is unfaithful to their wife or husband?

Fun Poem

Let's see how creative we can be.. Add a line or two to this poem?

I’m in a place
With a familiar face

What is your biggest PET Peeve?

What is one or two things that just gets on your nerves?

Drives you crazy makes you want to scream?

Have you texted someone by accident?

Have you every sent a text to the wrong person?

What was the text? hmmmm!!!!

Positive Relationships

Do you know of any positive and successful relationships that give you hope that lasting marriages still exist?

My friend Inspired me!

Do you have a friend that inspires you?

If yes what is it about this person?

Christmas List

What's on your Christmas list?

I want a child but don't want to be married?

Why do you think your looked down upon if you want to have a child and not be married?

Is it possible to be friends with somone you love?

Is it possible to be friends with a person and have strong feelings for them
without sleeping with them? But the feelings are ones that you know that you two
can be together, but your not ready and neither are they.Its like you want to
but you cant because you want to be sure that that person is right for you...

Obama

What do you think about his cabinet picks?

What are your thoughts on the autobail out and congress wanting workers to take a pay cut?

What do you think about how he is handling the transition?

What are friends for?

I have a big problem with trust and I am learning how to actually have and deal with true friends.

Do you have a true friend no matter what happens they will have your back right or wrong? If yes what is your most memorable experience?

The Butt master

I like to believe I am a professional at determining a good booty vs a bad one.

Good booty has great size to leg and stomach proportion. If your thighs could fit a size 6 jeans but your booty causes you to wear a size 12. You might be in the running for a bad booty. If your booty looks like your hiding two midgets.. Your height would be a determining factor. Now if your jeans are holding your booty in place and when you take your pants off, your butt falls like running water. You definitely have a bad booty. I would suggest butt implants because lunges might not help you.

Ladies, does the size of your booty help you get men or run them away? If you could change your booty would you?

Fellas does booty size really matter?

Why did it take you so long to leave/

We have all been in a toxic relationship and stayed too long.

Why didn't you want to leave? What was the turning point that caused you to leave?
What did you learn about yourself?

We all peoples, so don't feel embarrassed to sit by the fireplace and let it all out....

What celebrity would u sleep with?

Which celebrity would you sleep with?

Who should pay

Here is the story. My cousin was in town this this weekend from NC. He met up with this girl he met online, she drove about 30 mins to see him. They chilled and got a hotel room. However, he couldn't get his JOINT up. He said after 15 - 20 mins of trying the girl got frustrated and put her clothes on. She asked him for gas money being he couldn't satisfy her.
Should he at least pay for that being she drove to get something and it didn't happen? or He should pay her anything because shit happens? Yes or no and why?

Are you available?

It appears everyone on here is single. Mentally are you ready for a relationship? Are you available or too busy trying to succeed in life for a relationship?

After Sex

What do women expect a man to do after sex? If your not in the bed knocked out. I need to finish the job...

Tell me about you

Good Morning !!!

We have been chatting for awhile. Introduce yourself to the group.
Can you cook? Can you sing?

do you smell good

I went to the mall this weekend and I passed a woman smelling so good. I wanted to follow her around (nope not a stalker) Nothing is more attractive than a woman smelling good.

Ladies what is your favorite perfume, the one that has men stopping and sniffing like dogs?
What colonge takes you there without words?

Fellas what colonge and for those that don't wear colonge what soap has the ladies ready to give it up without a word?
What perfume do like your lady to wear?

How long she you wait to have sex

what is the difference between waiting 1 month and 5 months. I noticed more woman are choosing to wait. I don't see the purpose help me understand.

Threesome

Ladies have you had a man ask you to invite someone in the bedroom? If yes how did you respond. Did you go the freak off. Politly tell him no.. etc

Fellas have you asked a woman to invite someone into? Is two women really a mans dream?

Sex noises

Hey yall know it's been a minute for me!

I was talking to someone about this over the weekend. Does any of following contribute to making sex better... talking, grunting or moaning noises?

Or do you prefer that other person to just be damn quiet so you can concentrate..

Daughter Update

I have decided not to allow my daughter and her BF to live with me. Mainly because they aren't married and I don't want to force them into marriage. I suggested she move in with me or her mother and he live with his mother. They set a goal and save to get a place. Her comment was that could take a couple of years. So, they have decided to stay in his mother's apt which will be over crowded. Hey your making a grown up decision, that is your choice. That's how I see it. I told them I still love her and will help them where I can. Thanks everyone for they comments and suggestions.

How do you want to love?

I got this one from GS..

Do you want to fall in love or find love?

Sports and Athletes

What's really going on in Sports. Why are these athletes letting there hood friends keep them in the hood when they have received millions to play a sport? Example: Mike Vick (dog fighting) and Plaxico Burress (shot himself in club). Thought the goal was to get out of your old neighborhood to better yourself and your family.

Obama and Hillary.. What are your thoughts?

What are your thoughts on Obama picking Hillary?

What are your thoughts on his cabinet selection so far?

Christmas Tradition

It's the Holiday's.

She your Christmas traditions? Are you expecting any aunts or uncles tobe drunk? Are you the cousin they expect to bring all the food?

Would get involoved with someone without sex?

My friend claims she let's men know up front she really isn't into sex but men still choose to deal with her.

My question man/woman would you seriously date someone that said the are really not into sex?

Give me your opinion !!!

This is posted for a friend


A friend of mine that is married noticed an email on her husband's facebook page from an old booty call. Yes, about six months ago the couple was separated but w/much prayer they are back together and doing very well. The husband and the booty call were dealing with each other during the separating time. When the husband went back home, he sent a email out to all the old booty calls stating that he was going back Home to be the wife. With this situation, the wife asked that they handle this together. They sent email to the booty call from the wife's facebook page stating that things at home are doing great and we don't need no interferce. Well the booty call decides to respond stating that she was only responding to an email that the husband had sent her. The wife told the husband what the booty call said. Yes, we all know the wife has checked and re-checked the sent box (No email). The husband is stating that he has been truly HONEST with everything and doesn't want the wife to do anything at all.

Shouldn't the husband handle this and not sweep it under the RUG? Why doesn't the husband feel that he should handle the situation? Why can't he understand that they should handle the situation together? What should the wife do? Is the booty call starting trouble in Paradise? If the this was you, what would you do?

Sleeping with your ex?

My friend asked me to present this question.

If you were single would you sleep with your ex instead of going with someone new. Considering you already know that person and the sex was good.

I am changing

How are you changing? If wrote about your life over the last 6 months. Would it be about progression or pain?

Sorry I can't satisfy you !

Have you ever been so excited to get some coochie or penis and when the time comes you just flop? If you flop do you go back and redemm yourself?

Daughter update

I have decided not to allow my daughter and her BF to live with me. Mainly because they aren't married and I don't want to force them into marriage. I suggested she move in with me or her mother and he live with his mother. They set a goal and save to get a place. Her comment was that could take a couple of years. So, they have decided to stay in his mother's apt which will be over crowded. Hey your making a grown up decision, that is your choice. That's how I see it. I told them I still love her and will help them where I can. Thanks everyone for they comments and suggestions.

Happy Thanks Giving !!!

What are your plans? Are you cooking, spending it with family? What are some the memorable Thanks Giving you have had?

what would you do to maintain your lifestyle

Considering we are in a recession and some people have acquired a lavish life style.
Would you rob and steal to maintain your life style and support your family?

Pardon Me

Hey pardon me for not posting. Been concerned with getting laid off, my mental wasn't there. Also, I was cheating on yall. LOL..

I posted some things on ISEECOLOR.COM (check me out on marriage minded singles) or just look up Dakim

Traditional Dating

We know this question came from a woman. LOL

What happened to traditional dating? Why guys dont like to take women on dates anymore? what's up with that?

Ladies do you agree with this question?

Why date someone single

My friend said her and her husband were playing and he asked if they separated would she has fun with someone else. She said yes and his feelings were hurt.

If a man and women are separated is it ok to have "FUN" with someone else? and if asked by the ex should they tell?

Why Women can't hang?

We all have opinions about ppl. Now my point of saying women can't hang is because guys don't really care what you sporting, be in competition, and gossip about each other. Men don't care about how many brothas you got sniffin up your ass. Men don't smile at you then talk about you when you leave the room. Those are the things I was referencing to. Women are in constant competition and I don't know why. We have to get our hair done, nails done, heels on, tight jeans, and what ever else to feel like something. Why can't we just come to chill in sweats and not care about how stylish we look?


Is this possible?

Create your historic Day

Obama being elected was a historic moment in time. If you could create your own historic moment or national day (outside of having kids).. What would it be?

Can someone take whats yours

I think everyone has been cheated on before. Remember the song by salt and pepper "I'll take your man". My question is can another person really take your man or woman?

Love and Trust

Do you think you can Love and be in a relationship with someone that you don't trust?

What would you do if you could get away?

We talk about all the things we would do if someone gets laid off.

What would you do if you knew you could get away?

Obama/Biden

Why is the ultra conservative right wing GOP acting as though the world is coming to an end because they lost the election?

Are the flipping out because they have lost their strangle hold on governmental power or are they flipping out because they lost their power to a non-caucasian?

The Clinton/Gore ticket defeated 16 yrs of GOP presidency and the uproar was no where near the level it is now. Obama/Biden defeated 8 yrs of GOP lunacy and right wing GOP are claiming everything from he is not a natural born US Citizen to he is setting the US for invasion and is taking away the 2nd Amendment.

Layoffs

We are all facing layoffs. What are you going to do if you get laid off?

Domestic Violence

I just found out my friend in NY stabbed his sisters BF because he was beating her.
The crazy thing is she is mad at him.

If you knew a friend in a violent situation. How far would you go to help them?

Making Love?

What words do you want to hear during lovemaking?

In not into YOU !

When is a man just not into a women?

Ladies can you recognize game?

LOVE

Do you think Love is all two poeple need to get through the difficult things?

STOP WHINING

I saw this post on another blog but it is very true!!!

" I'm tired of women nagging and whining. If you want to know why we don't respond to how you "communicate" with us it’s because we don’t have the secret decoder gene or time to decode chick. Stop whining. Stop nagging. We don't respond because we tune you out. As soon as you hit that...umm...tone....and every man knows...THAT TONE.."

Yall sound like a pitbull in the rain..

Fellas I know yall can relate to this one

Why does sex stop

Question.. Most married people or people that have been in a long time relationship say sex drastically stops.. Can anyone tell me why?

Why woman change

Why is it that when a black woman get involved with a man, she changes her whole personality

A friend of mine, was so stuck on not liking R Kelly, "oh he's a molester, etc, etc"
Now this guy that she like plays his music and now he's a musical genius

What do you think

I heard this comment.. what are your thoughts.

"When a man acts like a child it forces his wife/girlfriend to act like a mother?

Peom

What do yall think of this poem I wrote...


Held in Time

I’m caught in a place
With a once familiar face
Memories of hugs and kisses
Now replaced with wishes
Of ONE HOUR of
Peace and Happiness
The Sun rises and sets
But I have yet
To see a change in me
Sitting in the drivers seat
Unable to move these cold feet
The fetal position has become the resting place for my soul
Wondering why we can’t stand and finish our goal
Scared to leave to this state of comfortable confusion
Keeping your heart warm for you,
Hold up that’s my heart, I still can’t tell the difference between the two
Mo’ betta blues, mo betta blues
Sam Cooke said a change is gonna come,
If I go with change then I will miss when you come!
So I just sit here held in time

I am grown

When does a man/woman becomes grown. Outside of age...

I talked to my 19 yr old about life this weekend and she insist she knows what she is doing because she is grown. LOL..

Then I met this girl who felt because she is lawyer she is grown..

Happiness vs Pleasure

Can someone explain the difference between the two?

I think it is often confused, people think I am happy because I got this new car or I got that girl/guy number.

What is wrong!!!!!!

Can someone tell what is wrong with women today. Why at our age, do women think they can still control a man with the pussy. If you are, he is a weak man. Still saying mess like you have to pay to play. Go play in the trash you might have better fun. If a man isn't going straight for some ass, they yall want to clasify him as "DL". Most women say they want a good man. But can't define what a good man is. Some can make a brother schizophrenic for all the hoops he goes through to win your affection. Woman say brothers have it good because it's 20:1. Actually, it harder because good men want quality. I usually ask women two questions "What can you pass on to us" and "Do you know where your going to" I think of Diana Ross song with that question. Give me your thoughts

My homeboy just got played by this woman, She told he he was too nice. She knows she has his heart, so she plays the pussy card when she wants something from him.

who is to blame

My friend went on a weekend trip to DC with this guy. She knows he is extremely attracted to her. However, she told him she would go but she isn't interested in a relationship. But she has never been to DC, so she figured why not take a free trip. Dude said he was ok with that, just wanted to be in her presence. On the trip he took her shopping (we know how expensive DC and can be) and they went out dancing. As we all know he made a move for some sex the last night they were there. When she refused he got upset for a second and made reference to all the money he just spent on her. Needless to say they didn't speak the whole ride back to Atl. I told her she was wrong for going and added fuel to the fire by allowing him to spend money on her. That gave him hope. She feels, she told him there would be nothing and if he choose to spend money that's on him. What do you think?

Please Read

though we have a small victory…this is only one of many more battles that need to be fought. the race is not finished as we still have a long way to go. thus the reason I wanted to take time and share this….please read the article first…then view the presentation

http://www.theaustralian.news.com.au/story/0,25197,24606398-5013948,00.html

Congratulations Barack Obama !!!!!!!!

This is a historic moment in time.

How do you feel ? Did you doubt this day would come? Where do we go from here?

VOTE VOTE VOTE

Get Out and Vote TODAY ?

Finish this.. I vote because.....

Breaking UP

My cousin was with this girl for several years and now she has decided to move on. But he can't let go. He says he really loves her and doesn't want to give up on them.

Why is breaking up so hard to do?

Can you talk to your parent

My mom came to visit and we have a great relationship. It's so good, I can tell her when I have sex.

What type of relationship you have with your parents? What point did they accept you as an adult?

Grown and Sexy

We get the emails for grown and sexy party at this club and that spot. But when you get there it is the same ole people.

What makes a grown and sexy? Explain

Happy Holloween !

I don't have a thing to talk about today. Except Happy Hollween and don't let the boogie man get you. Can someone get a convo started.

Chemistry

My friend told me she met this guy and after a week they have great chemistry. Personally I think it takes longer than a week to develop and know real chemistry. I believe it is just infatuation or lust right now.

What is your definition chemistry? How long do you think it takes know if you and this person has real chemistry?

Recession

I don't spend much time meeting new people because of gas and the economy. It cost too much to go out on dates and in my opinion most women don't understand that. They still expect to be wined and dined.

How is the recession affecting you and your daily activites?

Good Part of Love !

We always talk about love hurts and depending on the day you try to steer people away from that thing called love.

Let's give some good examples of what love is and can be ?

What are your intentions

When you visit someone your interested in at their house, do you need you need to set boundaries before yall meet? Such as are you spending the night? Will we be having sex, etc?

This girl invited my homeboy over for a movie and when he got there the lights were dim, so he automatically expected something to happen. After the movie she gave him the polite good bye. He felt she should have told him that before inviting him over.

Hook a sister up !

Why don't men introduce their female friends to other men they know?

What is accetable in a relationship

continuing from yesterday!
In a relationship or marriage what is acceptable as far as going with each other and friends? Acceptable time to be home? How ofter should we go out as a couple? How often should we hang out with our friends?

Give me your opinion !

My friend met a very rich person,they have been talking back and forth and now he wants her to come visit, all of her friends are telling her to go, and live it up and spend his money. But I feel that she will have to do more than that, she will have to give up some ass. The theory is that she would give it up to somebody else that didnt have money so why not get something out of the deal.
Note: She is not interested in him like that

Do you feel like she is being treated like a prostitute or treating herself like one if she goes?

DL Hughley a sell out !

By now we have all read blogs or even seen the clips on youtube of DL Hughley. In my opinion they picked him because they knew he doesn't have a problem selling his people out for a samichwich (I know what I spealled). It is sad in the day and age when we are fighting to progress, that one NIGGA brings up back a million years. It shows what people will do for money.

What are your thoughts ?

I LEFT MY SON

We all heard about the woman that drove her son to Nebraska and left him at the hospital because the law allows it without her getting in trouble. According to the AJC she states she tried all she could and wasn't getting any help. Says the boy started stealing etc. He was bad and fearless. She felt that was the last thing to do, so he wouldn't end up in jail and she wouldn't get in trouble for something he did.

What are your thoughts?

What should I do ?

My good friend's son and her fiance got into beef and the son moved (probably got kicked out) of the house. Now he is going from house to house with friends. He called me last night and asked could he stay in my extra room. I am trying to decide what to do, because if I kicked my child out I wouldn't any of my friends helping them because I would want them to learn a lesson and to grow up.

What are your thoughts?

Married vs Single Friends

My homeboy got married last year now his wife has a problem with him hanging with his single friends. I can't understand why. A marriage is suppose to about trust and if you don't have that then you don't have anything.

Should married people limit or not hang with their single friends ? Why

Marriage vs Relationship

Can you explain what's the difference between being married and being in a long term relationship? (outside of the document we get from the courts)

What is the point of getting married?

Success

I met a black 27yr old woman that is a lawyer, She says she is trying to climb the corporate ladder as a result she has to lie about her background because he colleagues and boss wouldn't understand. In addition she feels the only thing a man can do for her is take from her not add. So, she stated she plans on interracial dating because they are the only ones that would understand her plight, financially and business wise.
What are your thoughts? Do you feel in today's economy you have to lie about who you are just to get ahead? Would you date interracial to get ahead in life?

Paying for Sports

I read in the AJC that parents are required to pay dues for their kids to play sports. WTF ! It says the fees covers SALARIES, equipment, etc. Where the heck are my tax dollars going. Oh yeah, tax dollars can not be used to pay for schools sports.

What are your thoughts ?

Celebrities

I just need to vent, I have read several times about parents being arrested because their kids have missed many days in school. It's ironic the same govt has devalued parents role and the type of discipline you can use on your kids, but want to blame parents. If a parent turns their kids over to the state they are looked down upon. I know once a child reaches a certain age they can become unbearable. My theory if the kids is over 12 they should lock the kids up not the parents. Society doesn't help raise kids and force celebrities as role models but blame parents in the end.

What are your thoughts?

Friends for a Season

Do you believe some friends can only be in your life for a season? share a story if you have one.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY NJGUDGRL

Can everyone join me in wishing NJGUDGRL happy birthday ?

HAPPY FRIDAY

Yall not what that means.. LOL..
We are all sexually beings !

Fellas do you look to see if a woman has that beautiful Camel Toe? Why?

Women do you look for a bulge? Why?

SLEEPY TIME

I was talking this over with a friend last night and he was like he really hates when his girl comes to bed with a T-shirt on. He was like he would rather she come to bed every night with a lil sexy bra and pantie set. Said that it makes him feel like he is sleeping with a grown woman and not a young girl.... What do you guys think about that?

LOVE

Do you think its possible to be in love with 2 people at once?

Also, do you think you can love anybody like your first love?

VOTING

I was listening to the radio this morning and all I heard were people talking about how if they vote early they feel as if there vote will not count.

Please express your thoughts.

Just in need of a little advise...

Can someone explain why we dont like to be alone. I have been without a mate in my life for around a year now and im lonely why is it that? Why cant we just learn to be our own company......

RELATIONSHIP

"Everyone says that communication is the key in a relationship. If this is the case then why is it so hard to communicate openly and honestly with your partner?”

POLLS

If you follows the Polls and media early voting is on the rise and Obama is leading. Do you agree with the polls? Do you think the media is trying to influence our voting by constantly broadcasting this information?

IRAQ

Why are we really in Iraq? And Why can't we pull the troops out?

Gold Digger vs Sex

Why is it when a woman feels like a man should provide for her in a certain way she is considered a gold digger. But nothing is said when a man demands or should I say expect sex? Why doesnt he get a bad name?

Women and Politics

Do you think that is coincidence or is it that men generally are more in tune with politics than females are?

Marriage

Why do you think his hard for black woman to get married?

Too Much Money

Obama has raised record breaking amounts of money. What do you think of McCain making reference to the Watergate scandal regarding how much money Obama is spending?

What do you think of the length of time candidates campaign?

Inexperience

I read on yahoo news yesterday Biden said if the Obama/Biden ticket won, one of the international countries would try the US because of Obama's lack of experience.

Do you agree or disagree and why?

What happens next

what if any fall out would occur if the McCain/Palin ticket won the election and McCain died with in the first 2 years of this term?

Colin Powell Endorsement

By now everyone has heard that Colin Powell endorsed Obama. Some people say because Obama is black Powell did the right thing. Obama is getting alot of support from the black community but hasn't real done any campaigning in the black community.
What's up with that? And most want to support his socialist ideas?

Do you think Powell will make a difference?

teen pregnancy

My 19 year old daughter told me she is pregnant. She is unmarried and hasn't finished college. I am disappointed because they have become another statistic. Some people say it's the parents forth. Others says I should be happy.

What are your thoughts ?
What are your thoughts on teen pregnacy?
How do we stop and educate our teens put an end to the cycle in our communities?

Abortion

This is a major difference between the Presidential candidates. Colin Powell endorsed Barack partial based on his views of abortions.
Do you believe in the right to choose?
What are your thoughts?

Interacial Dating

I remember back in the days it was a prize for a black man to date a white woman. The same was true for a white man dating a black woman. I thought in 2008, people's feelings have changed and it's about who makes you happy. But I find in the south it still bothers alot of people.

What are your thoughts ?
Would you date outside of your race? Why or why not

Family

How do you think not having fathers in the home or single family homes effect America's view on family.

Masturbation

We know everybody pleasures themselves with a GOOD NUT ! Some more often that others.

Does it bother you when your man masturbates?

Does it bother you when your woman masturbates?

Men would it bother you if your woman was constantly using her toy when u weren't around?

HAPPY FRIDAY !!!!!

For those of yall that don't know I am a freak to a point. I like to role play thats until this girl asked me to let her TIE ME UP ! while she has fun. The 1st thing that came to mind was slavery is over. You ain't tying me up.

question - Do you role play and what have you done?

Have your fullfilled your fantasies if so what was it? If not what is your fantasy ?

Don't lie because I know of few of you are still having boring SEX..LOL

Pickup Artist

Do pickup lines really work?
What is the best line a guy or girl ever used on you?
What is the best line you used that worked?

Debate !

Last night most of us watched the debate. What are your thoughts? What did you think of the tone?

Obama seem poised but at times it appears McCain was whipping his butt!

Voting

Why is it that people are so into sports when they have no control over what happens. But when it comes to voting they always make the comment "why vote its not going to make a difference anyway?

Do you think McCain will be able to make a comeback? Should Obama play it safe, which is what he has been doing?

Breast Cancer

Would a man date a woman who had both her breast remove because of breast cancer?

Second would a woman have both of them remove to avoid being tested reg for the disease?

Should VICK Play

Arthur Blanks said he thinks Mike Vick should be able to play again and he is rehabilitated. But not in Atl!
Do you think Vick should play ?

What the fuck is wrong with PACMAN JONES ?

Best Friends

Can your mate be your best friend ? Should you discus EVERYTHING with them ? If not what type of things are off limits ?

Love

How do you love someone with out losing yourself?

Why do we have so much trouble accepting, giving and making love last?

Sticky Situation

I have a good friend! Her homegirl's husband propositioned her. She is trying to decide if she should tell her girl. I told her HELL YES ! The real problem is we all know she is loose (yes she loves penis), so she thinks her girl won't believe her because of her history?

Would you tell ? And if your married or dating would you believe if your loose friend came to you ?

Adoption

I believe every child should have a safe and loving home. Celebrities adopting 3 world country children appears to be the new FAD.

Should parents be able to adopt children outside of their race ?

Is Obama really Black ?

His white grandparents raised him from 6-18yrs old in Hawaii. So from 2-6yrs, he was raised in Indonesia with his white mother and her Indonesian husband.

why do people think obama is so black?

what does this man know about being black they ask?

50/50

My homebody and I had a debate about how a household should be ran. He feels the man should pay the biggest bill in the house, ie mortage. The wife pays the utilites.
I feel the household bills should be split 50/50 down the middle to the last penny!
Of course yall know I am correct on this one.

What are your thoughts ?

Are we in a RECESSION !

Both candiates say they have the magic key to fixing the economy. I don't believe either one ! Personally I think we are in a recession.
What are your thoughts ? Do you think either candidate can fix this within the 1st 2 years of their term?

HAPPY FRIDAY - LETS HAVE SOME FUN !

This question came from my homie !

For men and woman - Do you prefer thongs, boy shorts or G-string ? Which one you think is sexier? What do you prefer to see your woman in or woman which one your man prefers to see you in?

Do you prefer hairy, trimmed or bald - VaJayJay

Constructive Criticism

If someone came to you and pointed out things in your character that are not becoming, would you be offended or would you take it for face value and do a self check.

Can you handle criticism or will you fly off the handle?

Part 2
Name 5 things your like about yourself?

To Pay a bill or Not

I had an interesting conversation with a friend last night. She feels if your dating someone for at least 6 months or more. Then he should offer to help his woman out. Which could mean paying a bill that month, showing up with groceries, etc.

I think that is crazy ! They are your bills ! If we are living together then yes, but not if i have my own household to maintain ! Heck she should pay one of my bills !

What are your thoughts ?

McCain vs Obama negative campaigns

Negative energy brings about negative results !

What are your thoughts about the negative campaigns from each party ?

Dem can get 60 seats in the Senate

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Winning a "magic 60" could prevent GOP from blocking legislation

Of the 35 Senate seats on the line this year, 23 are held by Republicans. Do you realize DEM's would have the ability to pass any legislation they wanted through the senate.

DEBATE

What did you think of yesterday's Debate !

Was there a winner or loser ?

Dating part 2

As we know Bishop Weeks a (convicted woman abuser)is searching for a wife. I have friends that will date a person like this or someone they know is a chronic cheater, liar etc.

My question - Why do men/woman date someone they know has a questionable character?

Dating in ATL

I think we have all heard if you want your relationship to last don't move to Atlanta. Also don't marry a native Atlantan. The notion is women down here will do anything to be with a man even if he is married.
My question - Are women so desperate they will accept anything to be with a man?

Why does the side chick allow a man to run their lives like he doesn't have some1 at home?

I Love YOU ? Do you Love ME !

What happens if you tell someone you love them and they say they don't love you. Do you continue with them or leave?

Does Love Hurt !

Why does Love hurt!

Love is an affectioniate feeling you have for another person and the way you choose to display that affection. I remember love was synonymous with birds and the bees, riding down the country side, holding hands, kissing until your mouth hurt, brushing her hair, rubbing his feet.

Now depending on who you ask Love has evolved into a niche product where only a few people can offer encouraging words about it. Others relate it to pain they felt or are feeling and how a heartless person destroyed that. It has become synonymous with the toy in the window you can’t have, fear of getting that first needle, divorce, looking out the window on a rainy day.

Love doesn’t hurt, people hurt people. We choose to give our heart to undeserving people and when they don’t reciprocate those feelings, that's what hurts. Pain is inevitable but misery is a choice. We have the power to choose how much pain we are willing to endure. We wait hoping this person will see the good in me and change. Spend countless days going above and beyond to prove we are the best candidate. When in reality we are really subscribing to an expired service that isn’t taking any new customers. In our search we allow misery to become a habit that shapes our outlook on love. Continuing to love the same type of behaviors and expecting a different result. I have learned people love differently, but is your love something that brings the best or worst out our me, one that has me dreamy or on edge.

Caring or Love

What is the difference between caring about someone and love?
Do you believe in Love?

Commitment or Love

What's most important in a relationship Commitment? or Being in-Love?

VP Debate Last Night

Who was the the Winner ?

What did you think of both candidates performance?

VP Debate

Whats your opinion on VP debate tonight ?

What do men want

Men always say they want a real woman! One they can watch the game with, go to the stip club, hang with him and his friends and still have good sex.

But when a man gets that he doesn't know how to keep it. We are cool with her being all those things until we catch feelings, then we don't want her around our friends too long. She can't come to the club with us no more. Whats up that ?

1st Date

From a woman's stand point whats the best thing to do on a first date?

Is sex on the 1st date ok ? Remember we are in 2008 !

Curious or Bisexual

My homegirl was involved with a women for about 6 months. She said she will never date another woman. She says she was just curious.

If a woman dates another woman is she curious, Bi, or Gay?

What is a man does this, is he Gay, curious or Bi?

Sensitive Man

My homeboy is a punk for this woman. He basically caters to her every need, with time, money etc. If she calls he runs. They have no intimate relationship and she makes it clear they are just FRIENDS.

Women, Would you date a man that is sensitive and always accomodating to your needs?

Fellas, would you consider your homeboy a Punk if he was sensitive and always accomodating to his woman's needs?

Choice

The Presidential race is tight according to polls. The party lines are almost split down the middle, it appears some are just affected by the Obama or Palin factor. But don't truly know what their party represents.

Are you a Republican or Democrat and why ?

Sex

How important is oral sex in a relationship ?

HAPPY WEDNESDAY !!!!

I am shocked to have met and become friends with the last American Oral Virgin. Yes my friend says she has NEVER EVER EVER given HEAD, sang into the microphone. I am still trying to figure out how she kept a BF. LOL ! She feels that is something to possible save for marriage.

My question Are you waiting for marriage to engage in specific sexual activity?

Sarah Palin

What do you think of her interview ?

Check out the video below

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cP12aNzocSc

Your Choice

Over the past few weeks I have spoken to many people who consider themselves a Republican or Democrat, but when asked why 1 person said because most blacks are Democrat. Personally I think that is BS

Are you a Republican or Democrat and why ?

Sex with someone New

How soon is to soon to have sex with someone. Is is ever to soon?

And what does having sex mean.......are we in a relationship now, does he/she like me, am I just a booty call, etc.

Foreign Relations

As our society expands, Does our need to develop lasting meaningful relationships with our foreign counterparts need expand?

Pack your bags and go !

How do you get rid that person (man/woman) that won't leave ?

Move IN or Not

How long should you wait before you move in with somebody?

HAPPY FRIDAY

Lets have some FUN !

Where are the craziest places you have had sex?

DEAL OR NO DEAL !

Whose to BLAME NOW ?

Most Senate Republicans and the White House joined most Democrats in backing a modified bailout, while House Republicans wanted to thwart it.

WTF
McCain stopped his Campain !
Barack said call me if you need me !

Women don't want a good man !

Why do women get a GOOD MAN and don't know how to keep him ?

Should the Debate Go on ?

McCain's move: Bold - or bonkers?

McCain camp to propose postponing VP debate

Obama says YES! McCain says NO ! What does this say about their potential leadership abilities? Is this a good political move for either candidate ?

What Would Jesus Do

Has anyone heard Bishop Weeks (Juanita Bynum's) husband has a reality show where he is searching for a wife.

What are your thoughts ?

Barack vs Joe

Barack Obama tells running mate Joe Biden to keep quiet

Did Barack make a bad choice in picking Joe ?

Will it cost him the election ?

Will the election come down to race?

Relationships

In talking to people I find folks get caught up in the sex first and when that gets boring they try to have a relationship and wonder why it fails most of the time. Not many people discuss the important stuff first. My tolerance level is low, so I size a woman up in the first 30 days so there is no time wasted.

What things people should discuss during the 1st 30 days of a friendship/relationship ?

On The Down Low

This term in my opinion has messed up the dating world. Women are understandably afraid to date.

Can you really tell if a man is on the DL ?

Can woman be on the DL? or is it accepted because men don't mind seeing two woman ?

700 Billion Bail Out

What is your opinion of the proposed $700 billion bull crap bailout Bush is proposing ?

WOMEN ONLY !

How do you please a man without sex ?

Why do so many women flip when they find out their man is looking at porn?

WOMEN ONLY !

Age old question ! Does size matter ? (does he have to be a gold club member)

Can a women have sex without feelings ? Be a jump off ?

What do women want from a guy sexually?

MEN ONLY !

What is a good and healthy relationship ?

Are men intimidated by an independent woman ?

How man partners can a woman have before she is not marriage material ?

MEN ONLY !

Do men want to know if they are inadequate ? Working with small wheels ?

How long will you stay if the sex is bad ? What is bad sex ?

In the name of LOVE

What is the worse/craziest thing you did in the NAME OF LOVE ?

Who are you voting for ?

Good Morning, hope everyone had a safe and enjoyable weekend !

Take a moment and tell us who your voting for and why?
Why is this election important to you ?

FYI, just because Obama is black isn't a good answer.

Relationship

Is it ok for a friend to sleep around with his or her best friends ex? ( cut buddy or relationship status)

Teens and SEX

What is your opinion on kids 13 - 15 having 10 or more partners?
What is your opinion on teens having oral sex vs vaginal sex?

Teens believe oral sex is not sex because there is no vaginal penetration.

Relationship (toxic)

I was married for 14yrs, BEEN HAPPILY DIVORCED FOR 2YRS. People always ask after all those years you should have made it work or just stayed together.
Should you stick around for the children's sake ?
When or how do you know it's time to end a toxic relationship?

Living my fantasy

Some friends and I went to Hooters last night, they are married, all but one took their wedding ring off before we went in. One of the guys asked the waitress about her uniform. Told her we wanted to purchase a uniform for his wife (yes they role play). After a few questions she agreed to meet and sell him a uniform. The waitress asked us who was married, all the other guys said they were single and were trying very hard to see who get the waitress number. As we were leaving the waitress handed the MARRIED guy her number with a note that read, "If your wife is into woman give me a call." For my friend this is an opportunity of a life time. He loves his wife and has been married for 12 yrs. He is considering asking his wife would to help live his fantasy. Or he is considering finding another woman to pose as his wife for this one time opportunity.
What should he do?
What would you do men or women if your spouse asked you to participate?
In your opinion what percentage of married men cheat?

Plantonic Friends

I have a married friend (we are platonic friends) however we speak alomost everyday via email. Her husband and I are friends/cool. He knows we speak but doesn't know how often we speak. He has asked her to see our emails which she chooses not to show because she feels he should trust her. However she does tell him we speak at times. I told her she should disclose that too him because though we are friends he wouldn't understand. Should I stop talking to her ? Or any other suggestions would be helpful

Parenting

Give your opinion on my friend should do and is she a bad parent?
My friend has 2 sons 14 and 18. Her 14 yr old got caught stealing a couple of times and now she has to go to court as if she is a bad parent for crimes he has committed. The 18yr old just granduated from High School and she threw a party where drinking and smoking(weed) was allowed. What advice do you have for her? Should she be responsible for the 14yr old actions? Is she a bad parent for allowing her 18yr old to drink?

Emotional Cheating !

What is Emotional Cheating?