How do you love someone with out losing yourself?
Why do we have so much trouble accepting, giving and making love last?
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5 comments:
I dont think we have a problem with making love last I think that we have to understand that at some point we fall in and out of love....
I dont think your going to love somebody 100% all the time I think you have to keep finding reasons as to why you love this person or whatever
Goldenstar, you need to write a book because I think you are absolutely right. With time and age, we all change and we have to learn to grow and mature with love.
I think you can't love anyone until you love and know yourself. Once you have accomplished that then you will not lose yourself in love. Also you will be able to teach someone else how to love without losing themselves.
For men I think once a woman hurts him, everything goes out the window.
I also think we live in a fantasy world, of how easy it is to replace your current mate. In addition, we are told to just get over it and move on. I agree with goldenstar, unfortunately for most their lessons is love are not positive ones. We need to be able to reach out and search for what we don't know, in order to build stable and lasting friendships and relationships
Love is for suckers. hee he j/k
I think if you remain true to who you really are in the begining of the relationship that losing yourself will not be an issue.
A lot of times we put our best foot forward in the begining of relationships and hide some things. And after the person really gets to know you they say you have changed. Most times the person has not changed they have just feel into a comfort zone in a relationship and revert back to who they really are.
If people are honest with themselves and there partners and set realistic expectations in love they will be fine.
There are essentially three stages of love.
Stage 1:Infatuation phase were the person can do no wrong. This is the stage that gets most in trouble because they expect the butterflies and good feelings to last forever.
Stage 2: the power struggle, this is when most of us fall out of love and the relationship slowly deteriorates. People attempt to mold each other into the ideal mate and resistance occurs.
Stage 3: If you make it past 1 and 2 this is were true love lies. Unconditional Love when you accept the person for who they are. In our instant gratification society we get bored at the prior stages and typically hit the reboot key and start the vicious cycles all over again.
Dakim-
I am feeling what you said to bruh
One thing we may be forgetting is that love is an emotion, like GoldenStar said, you gotta keep finding reasons to keep that emotion. Think about how much work we put into hating someone/something. You have to remind yourself why you hate it, and work up a good mad to really drive that hate home. You have to put a similar process for loving someone. Obviously it shouldn't require the same energy, but you not gonna love them 24/7. Sometimes you just gonna like em, sometimes you gonna dislike em, but something simple may be the trigger to sparking that emotion of love.
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