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I do have a couple of friends that cheat on there partners. Its not for me to cast judgement about our friendship because of how they handle there marriage/relationship.
If they have always been a good friend to me I cant stop being a friend to them just because they cheat.
You aren't casting judgement...but we all know right from wrong.
It would bother me a lot to know that my so called friend is cheating or doing their mate wrong like that. And for me to just be chillin with them like its nothing goes against my better judgement. I would feel like an accessory to a crime or something. I would feel like I'm saying what they are doing is ok when it's not.
It would be difficult for me to trust them and be a good friend back.
wow.... really just because they don't know what they want in life. What does that I have to do with you ?
As a friend all you can do is tell em right from wrong. If they dont want to be in that relationship leave, other then that they have to make the choice on there own time.
As long as you don't bring me into your mess .. I do not care. I have my own sins that threaten to send me to hell to worry about.. I ain't got time to stress over what someone else is doing.
Just be real with me as a friend and we should be cool.
Exactly STS, what they do behind closed doors is not my business, whether or not I know about it. I am not going to stop being your friend because you tipping. ConRonda, could you remain friends with someone who cheats on their taxes? Cheats in Monopoly, cheats on tests? Those are still examples of lieing and cheating
Im not going to be worried about it but it would change the way I feel about the friend who is cheating.
C'mon Easy, the things you named are not held on the same level as marriage. Really
I don't agree with it. Therefore, I don;t think I could just forget about it and smile in your face or be invited to your home. All knowing you just be dirty to your mate and I know about it. It is what it is.
you said you don't like liar, I was just point out other examples of lieing and cheating, you didn't quantify what type of lieing and cheating. If you were my friend before I cheated, and that was your sole reason for stopping being my friend, thats your choice. That sounds like casting judgement though, you are severing a relationship because you don't agree with a choice I made.
yeah i don't like being dishonest...even when it does come to taxes, exams, blah blah blah. I have been severely criticized because of that before. Honesty is the best policy.
If you're wrong you're just wrong. How is that casting judgement?
Who ever is doing it just don't confide in me. I don't want to know
Its funny how you are trying to pick apart everything I say. Like I need to change the way I feel about the question. If I don't want to be friends with someone who chooses to cheat on their spouse I think thats ok. Its not like they lied on a car loan or home loan or even a job. I hold marriage in high respect and I don't want to be a friend to someone who doesn't have that view. Now if you feel like Im wrong thats cool to. But don't try to down play what I feel about it. If you cool with it then thats you. Im not asking you to break it down for me so i can pick you. I don't care like that. I don;t agree with it and thats that! If I choose not to continue a friendship over it then oh well.
Again if you choose to live you life in a lie that you but don't tell me or involve me. It would be better off that way.
Easy ... I think that is your cue to back down. She is entitled to feel the way she feels just as you do. Honestly, ConRonda you are a good friend because you seem to tell it like it is instead of blowing sunshine up someone's behind :)
And yes she is every up front about how she feel about thing, but seeing that we are fam, we always keep it real and if I was cheating she would still be my best friend she just talking junk :)
LOL .. I know she is .. but that is the type of ppl you should keep around you. I can lie to myself all day, I need a true friend to tell me when I am being a damn fool ..
Side Note: If you didn't get a copy of Anthony Hamilton .. Please go get it .. This album makes me want to fall in that humble, school girl love .. Its real mellow and its a definate work of art :) Oh, I love Keyshia Cole but that album is horrible (just my opinion)
what!!! STS man I love that keyisha cole you have to pull it out again give it another try, cause I love brand new and I thought you should now, and the song with mo(monica) I know you at least have to like those 3 . and yes Anthony is hotness!
We really do .. I have listened to Keyshia 3 times and there are like 3 songs that I like .. AND please tell me why at the end of Playa Cardz she says "Luther Vandross .. Teddy" LMAO .. Girl I will give it another try but its a mess :(
I dnt see what that has to do with us being friends. I really couldn't care less if they are cheating on their mate. A couple of times I cheated and they stood my friend. I dnt need to cast judgement on no one.
Life is not perfect. Relationships are not perfect. Honesty, true honesty, can anyone say that you have that in a relationship? Sometimes maybe, but not all the time. For some things, but not for everything. Can you admit to all of your mistakes? Do you have any secrets? Think about it?
I don't get into a friend of a friends thats to far down the line. We were talking about someone close to you...A friend.
Yes, ppl make mistakes. Let me say this. If you do it and stop like a one time thing ok. If its something you continue to do thats when I would have to re-evaluate my friendship with you. Things go further than surface what about other things in that person. Is that not important to you?
Everybody turns the left cheek and says oh its not my business. If my friend was abusing someone else does the same apply. Do you just say um oh well its not me so what do I care. If so that's some true BS. Back to this. It is not initially my business but if you involve me then it becomes my business. Therefore, I have a right to say if I won't to be around you or not.
ConRonda has made an honorable stance and I can see where she's coming from.
I've been good friends with a person for about 8 yrs and he's not faithful to his spouse. He's alwayss been a good friend to me and I love him for that.
He tells me about his trists and I feel weird, sorta. But I don't get on him about his marriage. The only thing that helps is that I don't know his wife...and now I never want to...LOL.
By the GS & STS...I love Keyshia...but this new one is not the same hotness to me as the others. She has a few joints on there I can rock with off the bat. I'm actually disappointed.
I have a friend who has turned out to be a good guy but is out there. Atlanta is a breeding groud for it. Its way to much oppurtunity for married men. I have figured if you have not had time to experience the single life in Atlanta before you moved here with a spouse you are doing yourself and your spouse an injustice. Because once you get settled and start experiencing the night life you are going to encounter some scandalous goings on. Even if you wear your wedding ring everyday and talk about your wife to would be potentials it doesnt matter. I think in fact that that actually fuels the flame in scandalous chicks. They want to conquer their pray just as bad as men do. Im a happily married man and have been for years and chicks dont care. I was at hooters with some friends and the waiter asked who was married. They were looking at how fine she was and they all said Im not married and they were. I said that I am happily married and love my wife and asked if I could get one their uniforms for my wife so we can do some role play. Dont you know she slid me the number and asked if she could join me and my if she was cool with that. Lord knows i would not refuse if my wife agreed but if I was dirty I would have been all on that like white on shiny china. Its hard to judge a fox stuck in a chicken coop especially when there are chickens offering legs and thighs like KFC is having a firesale. I only judge him on how he treats me and thats all.
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I don't think I could
I do have a couple of friends that cheat on there partners. Its not for me to cast judgement about our friendship because of how they handle there marriage/relationship.
If they have always been a good friend to me I cant stop being a friend to them just because they cheat.
There life not mine.
You aren't casting judgement...but we all know right from wrong.
It would bother me a lot to know that my so called friend is cheating or doing their mate wrong like that. And for me to just be chillin with them like its nothing goes against my better judgement. I would feel like an accessory to a crime or something. I would feel like I'm saying what they are doing is ok when it's not.
It would be difficult for me to trust them and be a good friend back.
wow.... really just because they don't know what they want in life. What does that I have to do with you ?
As a friend all you can do is tell em right from wrong. If they dont want to be in that relationship leave, other then that they have to make the choice on there own time.
i dont like liars period! I don't agree with cheating period! that's 2 strikes.
To say that they don't know what they want...they are married...enough said
As long as you don't bring me into your mess .. I do not care. I have my own sins that threaten to send me to hell to worry about.. I ain't got time to stress over what someone else is doing.
Just be real with me as a friend and we should be cool.
Exactly STS, what they do behind closed doors is not my business, whether or not I know about it. I am not going to stop being your friend because you tipping. ConRonda, could you remain friends with someone who cheats on their taxes? Cheats in Monopoly, cheats on tests? Those are still examples of lieing and cheating
right I totally agree STS, thats all I'm saying what does one have to do with the other.
Im not going to be worried about it but it would change the way I feel about the friend who is cheating.
C'mon Easy, the things you named are not held on the same level as marriage. Really
I don't agree with it. Therefore, I don;t think I could just forget about it and smile in your face or be invited to your home. All knowing you just be dirty to your mate and I know about it. It is what it is.
Just dont tell me!
so would I be wrong for not being your friend anymore?
you said you don't like liar, I was just point out other examples of lieing and cheating, you didn't quantify what type of lieing and cheating. If you were my friend before I cheated, and that was your sole reason for stopping being my friend, thats your choice. That sounds like casting judgement though, you are severing a relationship because you don't agree with a choice I made.
Agree Easy .. If God can forgive us, who are we to not live in forgiveness .. especially in a matter doesn't really concern you.
yeah i don't like being dishonest...even when it does come to taxes, exams, blah blah blah. I have been severely criticized because of that before. Honesty is the best policy.
If you're wrong you're just wrong. How is that casting judgement?
Who ever is doing it just don't confide in me. I don't want to know
Sts...
If it is past tense then fine...but while it is current...that's the problem. I can forgive but I cannot condone it while its happening.
wow ConRonda I think that your being a lil hard about this its like saying that people cant make mistake or do wrong I mean it happens its life...
Like you tell me all the time everybody cheat... so I know some of your friends have to be doing it.
so CR, you would cease the friendship until the cheating stopped, then you could be there friend again?
Its funny how you are trying to pick apart everything I say. Like I need to change the way I feel about the question. If I don't want to be friends with someone who chooses to cheat on their spouse I think thats ok. Its not like they lied on a car loan or home loan or even a job. I hold marriage in high respect and I don't want to be a friend to someone who doesn't have that view. Now if you feel like Im wrong thats cool to. But don't try to down play what I feel about it. If you cool with it then thats you. Im not asking you to break it down for me so i can pick you. I don't care like that. I don;t agree with it and thats that! If I choose not to continue a friendship over it then oh well.
Again if you choose to live you life in a lie that you but don't tell me or involve me. It would be better off that way.
Easy ... I think that is your cue to back down. She is entitled to feel the way she feels just as you do. Honestly, ConRonda you are a good friend because you seem to tell it like it is instead of blowing sunshine up someone's behind :)
STS,
Thats pretty much the right conclusion...All my friends will tell you that..
Ask Golden, LOL.
nice....
And yes she is every up front about how she feel about thing, but seeing that we are fam, we always keep it real and if I was cheating she would still be my best friend she just talking junk :)
LOL .. I know she is .. but that is the type of ppl you should keep around you. I can lie to myself all day, I need a true friend to tell me when I am being a damn fool ..
Side Note: If you didn't get a copy of Anthony Hamilton .. Please go get it .. This album makes me want to fall in that humble, school girl love .. Its real mellow and its a definate work of art :) Oh, I love Keyshia Cole but that album is horrible (just my opinion)
Peace Yall!
what!!! STS man I love that keyisha cole you have to pull it out again give it another try, cause I love brand new and I thought you should now, and the song with mo(monica) I know you at least have to like those 3 . and yes Anthony is hotness!
Girl we need to start a music blog...
We really do .. I have listened to Keyshia 3 times and there are like 3 songs that I like .. AND please tell me why at the end of Playa Cardz she says "Luther Vandross .. Teddy" LMAO .. Girl I will give it another try but its a mess :(
Ok so when will it be started??? hm hm hm
LOL .. when yall start it .. I'll chime in ..
Where are all the boys today .. seems like its just been the 3 of us talking ..
we will work on the post
I dnt see what that has to do with us being friends. I really couldn't care less if they are cheating on their mate. A couple of times I cheated and they stood my friend. I dnt need to cast judgement on no one.
I'm still trying to figure out how that is casting judgement
Hey CR, what about friends of yours that are friends with cheaters. You cool with them?
Life is not perfect. Relationships are not perfect. Honesty, true honesty, can anyone say that you have that in a relationship? Sometimes maybe, but not all the time. For some things, but not for everything. Can you admit to all of your mistakes? Do you have any secrets? Think about it?
Well anonymous,
I don't get into a friend of a friends thats to far down the line. We were talking about someone close to you...A friend.
Yes, ppl make mistakes. Let me say this. If you do it and stop like a one time thing ok. If its something you continue to do thats when I would have to re-evaluate my friendship with you. Things go further than surface what about other things in that person. Is that not important to you?
Everybody turns the left cheek and says oh its not my business. If my friend was abusing someone else does the same apply. Do you just say um oh well its not me so what do I care. If so that's some true BS. Back to this. It is not initially my business but if you involve me then it becomes my business. Therefore, I have a right to say if I won't to be around you or not.
ConRonda has made an honorable stance and I can see where she's coming from.
I've been good friends with a person for about 8 yrs and he's not faithful to his spouse. He's alwayss been a good friend to me and I love him for that.
He tells me about his trists and I feel weird, sorta. But I don't get on him about his marriage. The only thing that helps is that I don't know his wife...and now I never want to...LOL.
By the GS & STS...I love Keyshia...but this new one is not the same hotness to me as the others. She has a few joints on there I can rock with off the bat. I'm actually disappointed.
I have a friend who has turned out to be a good guy but is out there. Atlanta is a breeding groud for it. Its way to much oppurtunity for married men. I have figured if you have not had time to experience the single life in Atlanta before you moved here with a spouse you are doing yourself and your spouse an injustice. Because once you get settled and start experiencing the night life you are going to encounter some scandalous goings on. Even if you wear your wedding ring everyday and talk about your wife to would be potentials it doesnt matter. I think in fact that that actually fuels the flame in scandalous chicks. They want to conquer their pray just as bad as men do. Im a happily married man and have been for years and chicks dont care. I was at hooters with some friends and the waiter asked who was married. They were looking at how fine she was and they all said Im not married and they were. I said that I am happily married and love my wife and asked if I could get one their uniforms for my wife so we can do some role play. Dont you know she slid me the number and asked if she could join me and my if she was cool with that. Lord knows i would not refuse if my wife agreed but if I was dirty I would have been all on that like white on shiny china. Its hard to judge a fox stuck in a chicken coop especially when there are chickens offering legs and thighs like KFC is having a firesale. I only judge him on how he treats me and thats all.
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