Wednesday, November 26, 2008
Daughter update
I have decided not to allow my daughter and her BF to live with me. Mainly because they aren't married and I don't want to force them into marriage. I suggested she move in with me or her mother and he live with his mother. They set a goal and save to get a place. Her comment was that could take a couple of years. So, they have decided to stay in his mother's apt which will be over crowded. Hey your making a grown up decision, that is your choice. That's how I see it. I told them I still love her and will help them where I can. Thanks everyone for they comments and suggestions.
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If you are able and willing to help out...then help (for as long as you can or is needed). Your daughter should see about getting some public assistance (for the short term). If her boyfriend was laid off, he need to get unemployment, otherwise, he need to pick up 1 or 2 more jobs...even if it's a piece of job.
thanks T
Well I think you should of course help your daughter. However, I would only allow her to come not the BF! If they both want to be together then they will work towards a way to get that done. By them already showing they can't or won't pay rent to anyone why put yourself in a bind with the both of them. I think this will be a critical moment for the both of them. She will probably be angry and not understand why you can't just let him come. But she will later in life.
I agree with everybody if you can help help, but I wouldnt let him move in, I think he needs to find his on way. Or even if you let him come you need to be serious about him moving out in 2 months or whatever dont let them keep pushing it off.
I agree wit Con. If you dont some strict rules from the jump then you can count on them staying indefintely. Unless you need them as much as they need you. In that case you still need to set rules but on the base of what your needs are and not their's.
I think you should let you daughter move in but her boyfriend has to fend for himself, he has a child coming in to this world so he needs to "man up" and do the right thing, go work at Mcdonalds if he has to....
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