I have a good friend! Her homegirl's husband propositioned her. She is trying to decide if she should tell her girl. I told her HELL YES ! The real problem is we all know she is loose (yes she loves penis), so she thinks her girl won't believe her because of her history?
Would you tell ? And if your married or dating would you believe if your loose friend came to you ?
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hmmm should that be close friend but I got you son......
If its somebody that I trust I dont think they would have any reason.. to lie to me about something so serious... I would think why would somebody want to cause you/me that type pain if it wasnt true....
But if it was me I think I would have to tell my homegirl if her husband was coming on to me I mean really would you even want your friend with a man like that...
If friends husband was coming on to me you better believe I would say something...That is not a secret to be kept!
Considering she is looked at like a hoe by her friends, She shouldn't tell her friend anything and should fall back on that friendship.. Dude is going to continue to do it.
Also the problem is women talk to much, so her friend is probably telling her husband about her girls sexual escapades which is causing him to wonder what its like
When I was married if someone would have came and told me something I would have believed them because I knew who I was married too ! So I guess its about how well do u know your mate !
conronda so forget the possiblity of breaking up a friendship ?
Dakim
You are so right about women running their lip to much! I think that goes both way...talking about what he does for you and telling what she does for other men. It leads to curiousity! However, that is a test of trust on all sides. That's why you have to be careful who you have around you. Not only that I think once you are married you need to limit your single friends....especially the loose ones
wow... that's some bs dakim even if he is going to continue to do I need for her to know up front what is on dude mind. And if I loose a friendship behind it whatever maybe it wasnt a friendship I needed in my life period cause what you talking about is some shady shit....
But ahh somebody better say something
WHAT LIMIT YOUR SINGLE FRIENDS ! Heck no they were my friends before we got married and will probably me my friends once we get divorced.. that is the problem when you get married women come to the table with (I will alter him) A person is going to do what they want to do regardless to who their friends are. What happens is this causing him to lie. Then yall say we are dogs !
Well let me say you should be careful with how much time is spent with single friends...and thats just from what married people have told me. It can get you into trouble. Thats just from what married people have told me...Both men and women!
Tell it!!!! Friendship is honesty plain and simple. If he is bold enough to try your friend, who knows who else he has slept with or attempted to sleep with. No one wants to deal with pain or drama, but I would rather have a friend tell me my man is being unfaithful than wake up with an itch or worse ..
STS
Would you really listen to your friend with an open heart or find a reason to blame yourself or her. I think alot of don't want to put blame where it should be.
and where in the hell should the blame be
Goldenstar - what choice of words. The blame should be on the man! But we all know, when a women is caught up, that man can tell you he is walking to African and you are going to believe him.
Preach brother dakim.
If old girl tells the friendship between the women WILL be strained. They may indeed rehabilitate theiir friendship but once she tells old girl all hell will break loose. LOL
I fail to see the reason to tell his wife THE FIRST TIME it happened. Ok, so the other lady doesn't have the best reputation, she needs to check the dude herself first before going back and telling his wife. Is the lady 8 yrs old thinking 'OOOOHHHHH, I'ma telllllllll'? GTFOH, she needs to woMan up and put buddy in his place first. Now, if he just can't seem to grasp the error in his ways, then by all means, go tell on the dude. She needs to tell her face to face, then tell her again, with the husband there.
Ok are you telling me that you men are more concerned with a friendship over being lied to by a spouse or cheated on? That just goes to show how men and women think. um um um!
Coronda-
If dude is shady it will come to light anyway. Why ruin a friendship? It also depends on how obvious the husband advance was. Was dude drinking? Did he blantantly come out and say let me hit?
All could be a big misunderstanding. = )
Conronda not about losing a friendship.. its about start unecessary ish. because we all know if the wife is caught up.. no matter what you tell her. she may still stay with dude. Then what !
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But you did your part as her friend. So in other words if your friend wife was hitting on you you wouldnt say nothin right? Ok so then if she persues you even more then you have sex...then what. Its her fault or yours?
conronda - it will be both of our faults. However, it would be more of her problem because she knows what they have at home. We know how ppl lie, she could tell me things are bad between then.
Dakim,
What difference does it make what she tells you if that man is your friend. To me thats just the difference of men and women. My friend needs to tell if something funny is going on. After she tells me its up to me to decided how I want to proceed but she needs to say something if she is a true friend.
aUnfortunately you men seem to be confusing a woman with a girl. I am a woman, I haved passed the stages in my life where I have to question frienship. If telling me this type of information causes strife or strain on the friendship .. then it was never a true friendship. If the woman coming to me is being real, I have to respect and understand that it was hard for her to come at me with this type of information because she is truly a friend and isn't trying to hurt me. I don't have fake people in my life. If I call you friend, I can also call you sister, mama, mentor, ride or die chick, the list could go on. I run with a fabulous group of women that only want the best for me. There is a bond and trust that has been tested and matured with time.
Sts you are soooo right,,, but I think men just have a different outlook...
I agree with you STS, maturity has alot to do with your reaction to situations like this.
I agree with STS and that's why I only have a handful of people that I can express myself to. Frankly, it takes a lot for me to trust anyone. I'm such an observer of behavior, so I learn what I can and cannot tell another person. This then determines how deep our friendship will be.
Loyalty is an aspect of being a true friend. If my homegirl's husband propositioned me I'd cuss him out and immediately call my friend. I'd be there for the double-team on his butt as well.
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