Please send any blog questions to dakimpeoplespeak@yahoo.com. Also send me an email if you would be interested in meeting to discuss topics in an open forum.
Why is it when a woman feels like a man should provide for her in a certain way she is considered a gold digger. But nothing is said when a man demands or should I say expect sex? Why doesnt he get a bad name?
Society has always had double standards for men and women. Just like when women have sex with different men she's a ho but men are just being men. It sucks but that's how society is.
Yeah there truly are double standards in society. Its simply just sad. Men say they dont see nothing wrong with having sex and this. But them find out you have had multiple partners. Then they don't want you. But if you hold back then you putting a time on it all. Ask him to do something then you are looking for money. So you damned if you do damned if you don't.
Oh he gets a bad name .. we just don't tell you guys what we call you behind your back. Call me what you want .. I was raised a certain way, I have acquired a certain taste for things, and there are some things I will not settle for. I take care of myself and I am able to maintain the life that I have. Adding the right man to the equation is an asset not necessity.
I don't think a woman is considered a gold digger when she feels this way. I think what makes a woman a gold digger is the tatics they use to get what they want. When two people are in a loving and committed relationship or beginning the process of what could be something real that man has no problem doing what ever it is for that woman.
I think its the materialistic aspects that make us consider her a gold digger, you trying to have me pay your bills after us talking for a week, etc.
True story we brand women as gold diggers but we knew when we tried to get at you what type of women you were. Based on their ideals and conversation. So honestly men need to stop complaining and deal with someone they are more compatible with. If know that woman shops at Phipps and you shop at walmart that isn't the one for you. Likewise woman if you know that man isn't on your level don't play the game with him.
Sex is expected by both sides men and women, men are just more vocal with it. Where women tend to use it as a means of getting what you want and control, which leads to woman being called different names etc.
STS - I respect that and feel that is the best way to be and don't settle for less. It's when both men and women settle for less the name calling begins.
You are right Dakim .. that is when you know its time to walk .. I have always been my dad's #1 girl so I look at his good and bad when dealing with the opposite sex. I am a woman that knows what she wants and what not to tolerate.
STS yes good and bad, are you trying to make these men your dad or live up to your dad?
Because no one can compare to your Father and nothing bad about you. But I find dating women that have a good relationship with their father is double edge sword but for the most part its a good thing. Except when they thing I can lift a car cuz their dad did it.. LOL
sts and dakim What you guys are saying is common sense. Unfortunately both the men and women play these stupid games. Forgetting all about good character.
My dad wasn't perfect but he taught me some good lessons about men. I think I didn't explain well .. I keep in the back of my mind the things that I were good/bad about my dad because he was my primary male relationship. I try to search for those qualities in a man. There will never be a replacement for my father, but I do want a man that will protect, secure, and provide the way he did. Honestly I think I look for that more so now that it has been a year since he has been gone. I have never felt so exposed in my life...I think I am going much deeper with this..hope I am making sense
10 comments:
Society has always had double standards for men and women. Just like when women have sex with different men she's a ho but men are just being men. It sucks but that's how society is.
I dunno why we need to discuss this age old topic! The result is what indianagirl stated.
We can close this one out.
Yeah there truly are double standards in society. Its simply just sad. Men say they dont see nothing wrong with having sex and this. But them find out you have had multiple partners. Then they don't want you. But if you hold back then you putting a time on it all. Ask him to do something then you are looking for money. So you damned if you do damned if you don't.
Oh he gets a bad name .. we just don't tell you guys what we call you behind your back. Call me what you want .. I was raised a certain way, I have acquired a certain taste for things, and there are some things I will not settle for. I take care of myself and I am able to maintain the life that I have. Adding the right man to the equation is an asset not necessity.
I don't think a woman is considered a gold digger when she feels this way. I think what makes a woman a gold digger is the tatics they use to get what they want. When two people are in a loving and committed relationship or beginning the process of what could be something real that man has no problem doing what ever it is for that woman.
I think its the materialistic aspects that make us consider her a gold digger, you trying to have me pay your bills after us talking for a week, etc.
True story we brand women as gold diggers but we knew when we tried to get at you what type of women you were. Based on their ideals and conversation. So honestly men need to stop complaining and deal with someone they are more compatible with. If know that woman shops at Phipps and you shop at walmart that isn't the one for you. Likewise woman if you know that man isn't on your level don't play the game with him.
Sex is expected by both sides men and women, men are just more vocal with it. Where women tend to use it as a means of getting what you want and control, which leads to woman being called different names etc.
STS - I respect that and feel that is the best way to be and don't settle for less. It's when both men and women settle for less the name calling begins.
You are right Dakim .. that is when you know its time to walk .. I have always been my dad's #1 girl so I look at his good and bad when dealing with the opposite sex. I am a woman that knows what she wants and what not to tolerate.
STS yes good and bad, are you trying to make these men your dad or live up to your dad?
Because no one can compare to your Father and nothing bad about you. But I find dating women that have a good relationship with their father is double edge sword but for the most part its a good thing. Except when they thing I can lift a car cuz their dad did it.. LOL
sts and dakim
What you guys are saying is common sense. Unfortunately both the men and women play these stupid games. Forgetting all about good character.
My dad wasn't perfect but he taught me some good lessons about men. I think I didn't explain well .. I keep in the back of my mind the things that I were good/bad about my dad because he was my primary male relationship. I try to search for those qualities in a man. There will never be a replacement for my father, but I do want a man that will protect, secure, and provide the way he did. Honestly I think I look for that more so now that it has been a year since he has been gone. I have never felt so exposed in my life...I think I am going much deeper with this..hope I am making sense
Post a Comment