I just need to vent, I have read several times about parents being arrested because their kids have missed many days in school. It's ironic the same govt has devalued parents role and the type of discipline you can use on your kids, but want to blame parents. If a parent turns their kids over to the state they are looked down upon. I know once a child reaches a certain age they can become unbearable. My theory if the kids is over 12 they should lock the kids up not the parents. Society doesn't help raise kids and force celebrities as role models but blame parents in the end.
What are your thoughts?
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I think that in some ways it should be put on the parents, you carry the actions of your child until they are the age of 18.
I was listening to V103 and one of the parents stated that she had a child that wasnt going to school she did her part as a parent and took her to school everyday but for some reason she would always leave school or never show up.
So she went down to the police station and got her child a probation officer and at that point she had to answer to him and it take her out of the mix.
But she still had to step in as a parent and take some type of action. I dont think you should just had your child over to the law try a lil harder shit.....
i say lock up the parents. at the end of the day its the parents job to get the kids to school. when kids that miss 10, 15, 20 days of school something has to be done and its usually the parents fault in some way. i would say once the kid gets to 16, sure lock them up. odds are if they're missing that much school then they probably won't graduate anyway. probation might be another option. that way they have to report and get drug tested and all that fun stuff.
At the end of the day if you are going to lock up the parents for 'failing' their child, you need to lock that child up in the same cell with the parent and let the guards walk off for 15 minutes. The child is NOT learning any lesson by punishing their parent, they have already shown a lack of respect for the primary authority figure in their life. Some of these same kids aren't seeing the effects of their actions because blame is being placed on the parent and not on the child.
I agree with easy rider lock them in a cell together and leave, then parents can't go to jail for whipping that azz.. LOL..
Kids are becoming increasing disrespectful and aren't held responsible for their actions. The parents that hold kids accountable are looked up as being too strict. This is evident in school and at home. Ironically, prevention and other programs to help kids have disappeared but spending for jails has increased. Go figure.
This is how I feel. Society makes it extremley hard for parents to really get good help when they really need it. Then when the parent has tried all kinds of things themselves with no good out come what do they do? I think that if a parent reaches out for help there needs to be some real resources avail. all over. Not just in specific areas. Sometimes extreme help is needed. Intervene before not after. But I think at the end of the day that child needs to be responsible for his/her own actions not the parent!
It interesting that almost all free programs to assist parents and teens have disappeared, The celebrity idols they have put in their face aren't truly held responsible for their actions, so kids follow suit and then parents are blamed. Parents have always hard a fight to raise good GOD fearing respectable children, but now they are faced with so many obstacles and not enough help it can become unbareable at times
Wow .. I think that the responsibility is and should remain on the parents until legal age because society, schools, and government didn't make your child, you did. I think that a lot of children are out of control because their babysitter is video games, dvd's, or televison. They are fed kool aid in a bottle instead of milk or juice that has nutrients. They are sent off to school without proper attire or without a hug, kiss, or encouragement from a loving parent. I think that Bill Cosby is right and people need to spend more time molding their children instead of allowing the media to shape their views. Let's not give up on parenting. Being a parent is more than an occassional visit, phone call, or child support. Parenting is being proactive.
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I really have to disagree...I mean what happens when you have children that are given that attention. The parents who are involved. Sometimes you have children that are just non responsive to what you are doing. The schools want to put them on meds to or say they have some kind of disorder. So they are thrown into a system and lost. Everything is blamed on this so called disorder. Some parents don't just stick their child in front of a TV and call it a day. What do you do for those parents? When they have exhausted all they can do even going to the schools for help? Children get labeled early on. It makes it real difficult. You cannot handle all kids the same and you cannot just assume its the parent all the time.
I agree and I understand about the children that have special needs .. I am speaking on the children that have a lack of supervision. I have a girlfriend that has 2 special needs children that will never be able to live on there own .. I watched her jump thru hoops to get what she needed in a classroom to make sure that get as much education as their brains can comprehend. I think that there are a multitude of different issues to consider in this topic, I was addressing 1 ..
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