My homebody and I had a debate about how a household should be ran. He feels the man should pay the biggest bill in the house, ie mortage. The wife pays the utilites.
I feel the household bills should be split 50/50 down the middle to the last penny!
Of course yall know I am correct on this one.
What are your thoughts ?
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Well you already know this is somehow going to get back to the "pay my bill thing" but I think a man should be the head of the home. I feel you both are to pitch in on all the bills. I dont think it should be I did this you do that. Its equal. All monies should be in one pot. But ultimately he needs to make sure all the bills are covered.
Pretty much, who cares who paid what so long as everything got paid. I am pretty sure most men would want to have the means to pay 100% of the bills, but as they as they are all paid, it just don't matter.
My wife and i have one account so it really doesn't matter who writes the check. i think its crazy to have to divide up who pays what, it really doesn't matter who does it. both people use the water, gas, phone, cable, whatever so what does it matter who pays it.
i really don't even understand why some people have seperate accounts, if your doing something with your money that you don't want your spouce/partner to know about then you really need to take a better look at your relationship to begin with.
Every situation is going to be different... But I feel that whoever is bringing home the most amount of money should cover the mortgage....
I was raised in a house were my father paid the biggest bill which was the home note.... and my mother paid all the utilites
I would like for my home to run in that way, but salaries these days has changed around alot of things...
Its all about helping each other out.
I dont think it has anything to do with who big home the bigger check...just do it together. But I would like my husband to be over the finances...We would have one account though
I think who ever makes that most should be in a little more, why would you ask for 50/50 when one is making 27,000 and the other making 60,000 it wouldnt be even somebody would be giving there all.....
Because.....at that point it shouldn't matter how much we each make verses us doing things on the same level. Therefore, one person won't feel like you are carrying the other and the other person feeling like you are going to always be holding that over their heads. If you just put it all in and pull what you need you both are contributors. Leaving no one feeling more powerful and the other left feeling like they don't quite measure up
That would leave the next question to be DOES IT MATTER WHO IS BRINGING HOME THE DOE?
Josh-
What you are doing sounds alot like socialism. I kid I kid.
But as long as the bills get paid it really does not matter.
I mean if it got to the point if someone was spending wildly and I had to carry the load then there may be an issue. But as long as the bills are being paid I could care less.
doesn't matter who brings home the most, but it should be split. Couples have different accounts to maintain some individuality also, There is a joint checking and saving account. Then each spouse should have their own account for personal things they may want.
Splitting the bills 50/50 makes everything fair. It could be I pay the mortgage then she pays the utilities plus buy grocery. This way we know we are doing equal share and noone feels like they are doing more than the other.
As much as we don't like to admit it. People tend to go on a power trip if they fill like I am taking care you etc. Sometimes leads to I someone own you. I have seen this sencerio played out over and over again !
Doesn't matter who is bring home the doe, but does matter how yall split the bills
hey were is sxy chocolate ! I know should would have a comment about this one !!!!!
see Dakim, you playing with fire asking for her to pop up. Tick tick tick...
I think you should do whatever works for both of you. I don't think that there is just 1 solution or way to figure out the money situation. I just want the bills paid on time and my credit status to be maintained.
easyrider, I think we scared sexy chocolate away. Yes I'm the man.. LOL
dakim-
I heard sxyblack is a legit "9"
Come back sxyblack LOL
sts - good comment !
I agree with Josh.
I believe when you get married you become one. You should put everything in one account and pay the bills. That's how it works in my home.
I also am the one who takes care of the finances, that's because I'm a banker, it comes naturally to me. But if my husband was better with numbers he would do it. It all comes down to TRUST. Do you TRUST the person your married to???? We also have our own accounts as well. I save money better than he does, but its still our money.
indianagirl - why the separate accounts ?
I do agree who ever is better with the bills that is the one that should make sure they get paid
You made an interesting point TRUST. I wonder how much finacial trust exist among couples today ?
dakim.
Separate accounts for birthdays, anniversaries, special occasions, plus if you save it in a separate account when those special occasions come up you don't have to use the charge card or the bill money. Try to keep harmony in the relationship.
I would think you need to have both. Joint and separate accounts. I know I said all in but that is meaning no one person is responsible for a single bill..you do it together. But you also have to have your own thing.
indianagirl - YOU MY TYPE OF WOMAN !
Too everyone on the blog and people that one me, what do I always say you have your separate account for the things indianagirl mentions. I don't want to have to say "Honey i'm taking $25 to buy you some flowers" and if I just taking it without telling you. technically I'm lying
See I told yall !! LOL
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