My friend married her husband when they were 21. They have been together for 15 years. 3 Months ago she found out he cheated on her. Naturally she was distraught. Her 65yr old aunt told her she should have expected it, because they got married young. She also told her not to be too upset because her husband loved her and he only cheated once. Him cheating once in 15 years is good. He aunt revealed her husband of 30 years cheated only twice. She said sticking behind him and him seeing she was a good women is what helped their marriage stay strong. She said the women is the backbone of a marriage.
My question - If you have been with someone for a long time should you expect them to stray. (like the 5 or 7 year itch theory)
Do you think following advice of our elders, eventhough most of their advice may not the societal norms
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Well I think if you cheated once you have done it more than once. Mostly unless after that first time they got caught. I think that is just an elder thing to stay and try to work out your marriage. Older people just don't believe in divorce. Divorce now is so easy its like you didn't put the toilet seat down I want a divorce. It doesn't matter how long you've been together its just are you willing to work it out. And then find out the reason the person cheated in the first place. My parents have been married 40yrs and they got married at 19 and 22 and my dad cheated twice. Now they had me and my brother when that happened so my mom stuck it out. I think if you didn't have the example of what a good marriage should be you have nothing to base it on. When my husband cheated on me I was very angry because of how he did it. I don't think you should stray period. I had a huge problem with committment back in the day. So I've been with my husband for three years and I don't see me cheating. Even though I have thought once or twice about getting with an ex. But would that make me any better than him? I believe that people will be tempted all the time. But cheating is a sign of weakness. I was a very weak person. Now there is so much I will put up with. You get one pass when you are married. Just one after that its time to call Palowski.
The hell .. it only takes one time to catch a disease, HIV/AIDS, cooties, heebeegeebees .. Whatever!
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