I have a friend that just got married which is a good thing. But now she is trying to change everything about him. Like she doesent want him going out with his friends and feels like they should spend every birthday holiday or whatever together.
All his boys feel like she is trying to pull him away from the group or that she doesnt like them. But my take on it is that she doesnt want him around people that wont keep his mind family focused and some of you know what im talking about.
Does she trust him yes but we know that men dont always make that right choices....
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That sounds like a recipe for disaster, when she married she knew what he was about. I understand wanting to spend certain days and events together, but the more she tries to pull him from his friends, the more she gonna push him away. What may start to happen is he is going to resent her for trying to take him from his friends, or he's start to combine events (i.e. hanging with the friends directly after work, going to the gym, and meeting them instead, etc). She should have worried about him being 'family focused' before the marriage, not after the fact. Men may not always make the right choice, but a woman choosing to 'change' a grown ass man is just as questionable.
ok lets approach this statement first----Does she trust him yes but we know that men dont always make that right choices....
I don't think that applies to all men!
But I do think that she needs to understand thats his boys and he is going to do what he wants no matter what.
Ill talk more in a few
Wow .. People are going to do what they want to regardless. And maybe she isn't trying to change him .. when a couple gets married things change and maybe a little more than he anticipated. When you are a family unit .. birthdays, holidays are important. Perhaps she grew up in a household where her father was involved in all those types of events and perhaps he grew up in household where his father wasn't .. I don't really know, but they need to sit down and talk about expectations in their marriage and hopefully find a happy medium .. huh!
CR I think that is a really good statement men dont always make the right choice but for me that could be male or female....
I think if you are married you should try and make your circle of friends family minded people. Not saying that you cant have single friends, but I think it puts you in a different mind set sometime if your always hanging out with people who dont have to go home it starts to make you think differently.
Like maybe this wasnt the right choice or whatever.
A man will do whatever he wants to do period. She should let him do him before she gets her feelings hurt.
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