It appears most of us on here have been single for a minute. I know the longer I stay single the more set in my ways I become. I have friends and do things without regards for anyone expect my children.
My question is how do you transition from single life to a relationship?
Do you let all your friends know I am dating now you can't call me at 2am. If yes how do we let others knows. What about the late night out with the fellas or hanging out every week. Do you send a mass email etc..
What are your thoughts?
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I think you will make the changes necessary when you meet that person you are ready to change for.
Because you know what you would and wouldnt like in a relationship coming from a single life or not.
And if you have true friend they know how to back off when your in a relationship.
When you enter into a relationship not that much has to change, you just have to understand which things to change. The biggest is adjusting to thinking about someone other than yourself. That doesn't mean you can't stil have the late night(s) out, just not as frequently. Friends are going to call at 2:00 am regardless what you tell them, you just can't hold a conversation at 2:00 am anymore, make them get to the point, they will get the idea that the 2:00 am drunk call ain't funny anymore soon enough.
You may be in a relationship but you are still an individual person...I hate people that get with someone and cut the rest of their friends off until they are single again and expect their friends to come flocking back.
Easy Im with you. You just have to know how to adjust some. Don't cut your friends off! You have to decided how you want to divide your time.
I also don't like when ppl cut you off bcuz they have someone in their life now...but when or if its over then they want to come back full blown. That's not cool
I would say the transition should be slow. I also don't agree with just cutting off ur friends because your dating . Now as time goes on and If it gets serious then your friends will know that anyway from you straigth up telling them or from you at least notifing them in which every way you communicate with them. Im the type that feels if were friends before this speacial someone then we should be after this speacial someone. They should be willing to accept your friends and it can /should be mutual friends IF u tie the knot . I know there are alot of jealous peopel out here, but the trick to keeping the friends is limiting your activities with them . Agagin unless this person your dating is willing to come along, other wise just limit the activity enough for that somenone to feel respected. But feel like if were friends before that person we should be during and if it ends still friends after .
Easy and Con, I agree with you. I think that part of what makes a relationship great is when people realize that they are still individuals with sometimes different interest and friends. As long as you are respectful of your partner, I dont see there being a real problem going out with the fellas. Now whether or not you clip your toe nails in the bed and fart in your sleep is a different story....
Easy and Con I feel ya. But we all know when things are new devote all out time to that one. Months later when we come from under the covers we are looking for out friends to be there just like they were when we disappeared..
I dont do that!
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