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No I don't agree .. If you know who you are, then you can learn from anyone. I have a lot of women in my circle that are from all walks of life and I can learn as much from my project chick as my lawyer chick .. Besides, maybe you can be that person that helps them raise the bar in their lives.
I agree with that statement. Your friends should be equal or better. We should surround ourselves with people that challenge and help us grow. These are the people that should be in your everyday circle
Of course diversity is good and having casual friends from lower walks of life is ok but shouldn't be the norm.
hmm dakim, you feel that your friends should be your equal I would have to say thats a little harsh that you could define your friendship but what another has or doesnt have.
I am a believer that as long as they always have your best interest in mind thats a good friend... even if they living on food stamps still in the hood or a broker on wall street who cares.....
Thank you Golden .. variety is truly the spice of life .. Hell times is hard and a sista need a project chick to give $50.00 for $100.00 in food stamps .. ya heard me?? lol
True story if yall have any project chicks that want to let a brother use two kids, She can be my friend. LMBO
I hear what your saying GS and StS.. however, these will be the same friends that you will out with and having your fighting or getting arrested. Also what are you learning of value from them
D .. being street wise is just as valuable as book sense and common sense .. If you think that you have to actually experience everything in order to get the lessons of life .. you are completely jaded. You can learn from other's trials and mistakes. Not every chick in the PJ's is a fighter .. you need to spend a little time in the hood. Now some of them are fighters and that is hella backup if something does jump off.
I think you shouldn't have friends that aren't at least on your level of thinking. Each individual you have around you should inspire you by there actions
I used to be street everyday all day. At the end of the day, what are they doing to better me. If your in my life and I consider you a friend isn't it only right for you to add value. Not just cuz we from the hood together. Let's keep it real. If you have a master's degree. What value is your friends there going to add. I'm not talking about acting too good for someone. However, if I know into the things you are we can be cool and associates.
Dakim .. you missed my point. Maybe we should define value .. I think observing someone elses mistake and short comings and not applying that to my life is value.
I guess what dakim is trying to say is for example.
If you have your master degree or whatever... I guess your circle changes a little not that your better then that person but your level of thinking is different.
Maybe that friend will start to feel a certain way about your like your being high class or that you are changing. Or they could start to envy you in some way.
And it could be on the bases of your just walking a different path now and if there not on the same page as you, at this point what do you have in common with the person.
This topic really touches on some other threads that we have had refering to people's mates friends and them being family centered or 'birds of a feather flock together'. Now some folks are contradicting themself in this thread.
A friend really just needs to be someone you trust, or at least an opinion that you value and similar values to your own. Some folks have friends that are crack heads, but they trust em not to steal their TV, but also know execs they don't trust as far as they can throw em.
Well I think you should have friends that have your same moral or christian beliefs at least. Because I'm biased myself about being friends with some people of certain religions. I know its pretty bad but I do see myself snubbing certain folks. I rather have friends that I feel comfortable with. Somebody that looks like me and thinks like me.
Thank you Easy .. that is exactly what I am saying. I work with surgeons and I talk to them as if they were my homeboys .. I know ppl that are born, bred, & will never leave the pj's .. Its all about influence .. I think I learn from all of them. Birds of a feather flock together is a true statement when you are talking about the fowls of the air but I am a human being that knows who I am so it doesn't matter if I am rubbing elbows with a millionaire or sitting on a porch sucking down crabs .. Some of the most intelligent ppl I have met are bums on the street ..
Get past the exterior or the circumstance .. and there is where you find true value.
I agree with the statement. I think people use the term friends to loosely. Everyone is not your friend. We have acquaintances and then we have friends.
Friends are the people that are in your inner circle. The ones that you can call at 3am when you are in trouble. When you are having a problem on your job and you need some advice.
When I look at friends like this they do need to be my equal or greater. I want to surround myself with the best of the best. It is like the old saying what makes a good leader... they surround themselves with brilliant people. Same thing applies here.
Cass I understand what your saying, but you cant say just because your friend for 10 years didnt go to college and have a high paying job that your going to disconnect em.
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No I don't agree .. If you know who you are, then you can learn from anyone. I have a lot of women in my circle that are from all walks of life and I can learn as much from my project chick as my lawyer chick .. Besides, maybe you can be that person that helps them raise the bar in their lives.
I agree with that statement. Your friends should be equal or better. We should surround ourselves with people that challenge and help us grow. These are the people that should be in your everyday circle
Of course diversity is good and having casual friends from lower walks of life is ok but shouldn't be the norm.
hmm dakim, you feel that your friends should be your equal I would have to say thats a little harsh that you could define your friendship but what another has or doesnt have.
I am a believer that as long as they always have your best interest in mind thats a good friend... even if they living on food stamps still in the hood or a broker on wall street who cares.....
Thank you Golden .. variety is truly the spice of life .. Hell times is hard and a sista need a project chick to give $50.00 for $100.00 in food stamps .. ya heard me?? lol
True story if yall have any project chicks that want to let a brother use two kids, She can be my friend. LMBO
I hear what your saying GS and StS.. however, these will be the same friends that you will out with and having your fighting or getting arrested. Also what are you learning of value from them
Ok......! better act like you know
D .. being street wise is just as valuable as book sense and common sense .. If you think that you have to actually experience everything in order to get the lessons of life .. you are completely jaded. You can learn from other's trials and mistakes. Not every chick in the PJ's is a fighter .. you need to spend a little time in the hood. Now some of them are fighters and that is hella backup if something does jump off.
I think you shouldn't have friends that aren't at least on your level of thinking. Each individual you have around you should inspire you by there actions
StS.. LOL@U
I used to be street everyday all day. At the end of the day, what are they doing to better me. If your in my life and I consider you a friend isn't it only right for you to add value. Not just cuz we from the hood together. Let's keep it real. If you have a master's degree. What value is your friends there going to add. I'm not talking about acting too good for someone. However, if I know into the things you are we can be cool and associates.
Rhonda and you pls repost. Not sure where your talking about.
Still luv ya though.
Dakim .. you missed my point. Maybe we should define value .. I think observing someone elses mistake and short comings and not applying that to my life is value.
What is this value that you are speaking of?
I guess what dakim is trying to say is for example.
If you have your master degree or whatever... I guess your circle changes a little not that your better then that person but your level of thinking is different.
Maybe that friend will start to feel a certain way about your like your being high class or that you are changing. Or they could start to envy you in some way.
And it could be on the bases of your just walking a different path now and if there not on the same page as you, at this point what do you have in common with the person.
I dont know im just saying
D
I was just basically saying the same as u did in ur 1st statement
This topic really touches on some other threads that we have had refering to people's mates friends and them being family centered or 'birds of a feather flock together'. Now some folks are contradicting themself in this thread.
A friend really just needs to be someone you trust, or at least an opinion that you value and similar values to your own. Some folks have friends that are crack heads, but they trust em not to steal their TV, but also know execs they don't trust as far as they can throw em.
Well said ER
Well I think you should have friends that have your same moral or christian beliefs at least. Because I'm biased myself about being friends with some people of certain religions. I know its pretty bad but I do see myself snubbing certain folks. I rather have friends that I feel comfortable with. Somebody that looks like me and thinks like me.
shaking my head and knobles.. no comment sister..
racial profiling has gone personal
Thank you Easy .. that is exactly what I am saying. I work with surgeons and I talk to them as if they were my homeboys .. I know ppl that are born, bred, & will never leave the pj's .. Its all about influence .. I think I learn from all of them. Birds of a feather flock together is a true statement when you are talking about the fowls of the air but I am a human being that knows who I am so it doesn't matter if I am rubbing elbows with a millionaire or sitting on a porch sucking down crabs .. Some of the most intelligent ppl I have met are bums on the street ..
Get past the exterior or the circumstance .. and there is where you find true value.
Ouch Knobles .. You're entitled to your feelings.
Yeah I knew I was going to get some backlash on that comment.
I agree with the statement. I think people use the term friends to loosely. Everyone is not your friend. We have acquaintances and then we have friends.
Friends are the people that are in your inner circle. The ones that you can call at 3am when you are in trouble. When you are having a problem on your job and you need some advice.
When I look at friends like this they do need to be my equal or greater. I want to surround myself with the best of the best. It is like the old saying what makes a good leader... they surround themselves with brilliant people. Same thing applies here.
knobles thats why you don't have a picture. you too good for us.. snubing us.. LOL
thank you CAS for confirming my statements. Now I know Im not crazy
Dakim, Cas didn't help u .. u still crazy!
Cass I understand what your saying, but you cant say just because your friend for 10 years didnt go to college and have a high paying job that your going to disconnect em.
To me that's being shallow
I happen to like the Saints tis why I have that as my icon.
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