My cousin was a teenage mother at the age of 15 she stated that when her child enters high school she is automatically going to put her on the pill. In some ways I feel that it is the wise things to do but on the other handle are you telling her that its ok to have sex?
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I don't see where it's telling her it's okay to have sex, what it does tell her is that if you are going to have sex, don't be like me and have a child. Putting an airbag in a car doesn't tell you it's okay to drive like a stuntman, it just provides you a level of protection if you do happen to drive like that.
I think in a way you are telling your child that its ok for em to just go out there and hit everything moving. I think it would just be more important to keep open communication about the subject if and when he or she is feeling some kind of way about sex be able to talk with me about it and at that point make a move on how to handle it
An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, also she is still going to need to speak to her daughter about sex. Just because she has giver her the ounce of prevention doesn't remove her from needing to have that conversation. I don't think I would want someone to give their son a box of condoms and tell him 'hey, wrap it up'.
I don't think its telling her kid its ok to have sex my folks are very religous and strict being deacon and deaconess at church and my mom put me on the pill as soon as I graduated from high school. And it was totally not a go out and get your pleasure on. It was just we not taking care of babies. Now that I'm 33 I'm still taking birth control until I'm ready to have kids. I think its a wise choice and when I do have kids my daughter is going on them in high school too. Girls now don't play doctor with barbies they doing the real darn thing. I wasn't a teen mom and I don't expect my kid to be either.
I think you need to know you children!! You can tell if they are hot in the ass. You also need to talk to them early early early about life....which includes sex. The good the bad and the ugly!
Do I think you should put them on birthcontrol early umm I wouldn't unless I felt a reason to. Like being hot in the ass! And give condoms to the boys if they are being chasers!
Hot in the ass doesn't mean a damn thing. I think it is wise to put them on birth control. I didn't for my daughter. Its not saying its ok to have sex. But I am being realistic and knowing as a teen you have urges. While we all would hope the child would wait of come talk to us. The doesn't usually happen. So the safest this is to talk to them about sex and provide them with protection.
Think about it. Did anyone tell their parent, Im ready to have sex can you give me the pill or condoms?
I think it is a good thing .. She just needs to sit her down and let her know that she doesn't want her to have sex and that by putting her on birth control she is preventing her from something that will keep her from going down a rough path.
I totally agree with you Easy
Communication is key Golden
umm well i guess to me it was no thing! info was provided to me so i knew better than to just be screwing without protection.... i didnt want no babies and still not ready. I still think its depends on your kid.
How about I don't think we keep our kids busy enough. Give them to much free time! That's for real!!! Leaving them at home alone to do our thing or to work...but no supervision. No after school activites and I know even with that you cant prevent it but get there brain somewhere else. I think if you provide them with the info and knowledge they will make good judgement. Again you know your children. If they sneaky and ish around the house then well you know already what you need to do with them on other levels.
If you don't have kids and haven't been through it with other kids. Its easy to say should,could and would of..
just because we dont have kids doesnt mean your not involved in another childs life, I mean I have cousin and even some my friends kids will come and want to talk about this stuff so you cant make that calls like we dont understand and plus we still in our 20's being a teenager wasnt that long ago for us, I know its been awhile Dakim sorry..
Ronda what do you know about free time if you don't have kids and are not spending time with teens?
GS there is still a big difference between talking to teens and being a parent that has to make the decision for the kid.
its wise because kids are so grown these days, but sex education is really what delivers the message. sex ed and reinforcement at home are what usually make the largest impression. personally, i don't think it is a good idea to introduce that kind of medicine to a growing child because it can mess up their chemistry. i have heard of cases where women who have been on birth control for years have a hard time conceiving when they are ready. plus it kind of sends the message that is okay to have sex. we need to teach them about preventative care and STD's. having a child isn't nearly as life changing as catching a terminal or life long disease.
I am a parent of a teen and I talk with my children but at the same time when I know that my daughter or son is playing around with sex and kissing and touching they are getting some protection whether they want it or not. Matter of fact before my daughter /son goes to college she/he is getting an ICU and a bag of condoms. You can not be with your children all of the time and an teaspoon of prevention is worth a pound of cure/pregnancy/STD's.
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