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It could be me, but I enjoy going on dates, I just don't like the 'dating game.' I think part of the problem is that people have gotten too far into 'exploring options' and people feel like they are just wasting money entertaining someone that has no interest in anything more than a free nights enterainment. Not to mention that if one person is alway one doing the taken out and the other always going out, the taker just may start to feel taken.
well who told you to go out there and date 10 woman at a time.... I mean thats not the woman problem because you have been out 4 times this week and now you want somebody to treat you....
no GS, you got it backwards, women are out there going out with 3 and 4 dudes at 1 time, just getting free entertainment. Thats the part of the dating game I hate. Life is not an stock portfolio, you don't have to divest.
well i do like taking a woman out on a date but i feel its very much unappreciated its looked apon so lighty that we start to feel like why should i take this woman try to show here a good time possibly spend my last to show her im thinking about her and then after tonight its like i never did anything at all...
Honestly .. I have to admit I have taken people for granted. Sometimes we women think that we are entitled to being treated and don't see as a grand gesture. There are some genuine men do have our hearts in mind, those are the ones we toss away .. My bad dawg!
ER and Khaya, I am with you. Women have messed the dating game up.
I enjoy dating, but most women are looking for a free meal etc.. Then get offended when you ask for some free booty.
Also, I thank the women are open and honest about dating 3 different dudes. Call me a sucker but I am not wasting my money on you trying to win your affection. I am out for a challenge but not being a fool. I am going to look at you like a hoe and depending on your personality I am going to treat u that way also
To expound on that, if you are taken on a date and you know you don't want to go out with that person ever again, at least tell them thank you for the evening, before you forget their phone number and block them on your email. It may not make you feel any better, but at least the next person won't have to deal with the mess you may have made.
This may sound corny but you should screen your dates before actually going out with them. Meet them for a walk or something that doesn't really cost anything. Have an over the phone chat or chat online first to see where there head is at. Again I admit my guilt in the free meal dating .. I don't do it anymore because its just as much of a waste of my time as it is the gentleman taking me out.
AND .. the dating game is the men's fault as much as it is the women's. For years women have been getting played and finally flipped the script and now you men are sitting in our shoes and you are finding out that the shit ain't cute! I'm not saying that its right but its reality. Sounds like you guys need to spend a little more time looking for quality women and not a quick piece of ass. There are plenty of us good women out here my darlings, don't give up.
Dakim .. maybe I am just a different kind of woman .. I have no problem with the screening process .. I like doing outdoors stuff .. I ride my bike on the weekends 8-10 miles a day, I like going to the gym, you guys have moutains up there, go for a walk .. where is your imagination?? .. maybe you aren't dating the right kind of women .. Idk .. maybe the women in Atlanta are different. I give up ..
Well said STS... Men should take Women out on free dates and have telephone conversation before taking US to dinner and the movie. They should also be acceptable to a Women wanting to pay for either the dinner or the movie. That's what people do on dates.
I think that men are just lazy. I was talking to another guy about the same thing the other day. I think that woman make it easy we dont make a man have to work to get our attention. I mean we trying to be 50/50 these days paying for our own meals and all that bs. I aint with it I mean really can you open the door for me and at least pay for the first date I mean really whats up with that.
I can understand that everybody is hurting for money. But its alot of things out there that we can do for lil or nothing, think outside the box.
Thank you NJ .. I have even gone far enough to excuse myself to go to restroom and take care of the check .. No big deal. Like Neo said "She got her own .. "
So fellas .. how do you feel about that?? If we pay the check, yall feel like you should give it up?? Lmao
It would depend if I ordered from the 'We Fucking' part of the menu. I ain't putting out for a grilled cheese. Now if I can have the grilled cheese AND an appetizer, you just may get lucky.
GS .. you know what is so amusing to me is that the men on here do so much talking about women .. but do not realize that they are saying the same things we are saying .. Its a parallel universe people .. what goes up will eventually come down .. HA!
Easy .. you name is misleading..lol. What would you do for a lil soup and salad???
Lmao .. Dakim, GS is not cheap, she is just a woman that goes about doing her thing, her way .. nothing wrong with that. There is no right or wrong way to doing certain things.
And if all I can afford to feef you is hot wings and coke .. you will give it up and I will tell you why. We wouldn't go in the middle of the week .. I would treat you on Sunday or Monday night, at a sports bar. While you watching the game and sucking the meat off them bones, I will be paying 1/2 price beer and appetizers .. watching you lick sauce off your finger .. plotting the whole time .. HA HA HA
STS either you have brothers or your not really from FL..
That was good, but if you feed me half price game or not. I am going to reconize you were only playing me and to get these juggernuts.. You need to spend.. LOL..
Nope, I wouldn't feel used 1 bit. At what point was I usee? Now if I let her take care of me, and I ain't feeling her and she dropping hints about another getting some later that night, and I just bounced out the car halfway up my driveway and said 'Be safe' as I am closing my door..she should feel used.
Why is it "game"?? We are just on a budget... We are too (I am too)old for GAME... Did that back in the good old days.. Now, Im trying to get a good honest relationship. Strictly honest conversations and true happiness. Is something wrong with that?
Dakim .. I think that Vitamin C said it best .. "I know what boys like" .. Ha. Game recoginizes game is just a saying .. otherwise we wouldn't be on here bitchin and moanin about the opposite sex ..
AND .. I told you I was from CT SON!!! Don't start your comments either .. my father and I were very close, he talked to me about a lot of things .. my brother was just a bully, but he did put me on to music :)
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They don't feel its necessary! I was told that's old school and no one does that anymore!
Yeah I hear people say all that time that its 2008. Meaning thats a new way of doing things....
I'm still trying to understand whats the new way
It could be me, but I enjoy going on dates, I just don't like the 'dating game.' I think part of the problem is that people have gotten too far into 'exploring options' and people feel like they are just wasting money entertaining someone that has no interest in anything more than a free nights enterainment. Not to mention that if one person is alway one doing the taken out and the other always going out, the taker just may start to feel taken.
well who told you to go out there and date 10 woman at a time.... I mean thats not the woman problem because you have been out 4 times this week and now you want somebody to treat you....
no GS, you got it backwards, women are out there going out with 3 and 4 dudes at 1 time, just getting free entertainment. Thats the part of the dating game I hate. Life is not an stock portfolio, you don't have to divest.
well i do like taking a woman out on a date but i feel its very much unappreciated its looked apon so lighty that we start to feel like why should i take this woman try to show here a good time possibly spend my last to show her im thinking about her and then after tonight its like i never did anything at all...
and...Boom goes the dynamite. Spot on Khaya.
Honestly .. I have to admit I have taken people for granted. Sometimes we women think that we are entitled to being treated and don't see as a grand gesture. There are some genuine men do have our hearts in mind, those are the ones we toss away .. My bad dawg!
ER and Khaya, I am with you. Women have messed the dating game up.
I enjoy dating, but most women are looking for a free meal etc.. Then get offended when you ask for some free booty.
Also, I thank the women are open and honest about dating 3 different dudes. Call me a sucker but I am not wasting my money on you trying to win your affection. I am out for a challenge but not being a fool. I am going to look at you like a hoe and depending on your personality I am going to treat u that way also
To expound on that, if you are taken on a date and you know you don't want to go out with that person ever again, at least tell them thank you for the evening, before you forget their phone number and block them on your email. It may not make you feel any better, but at least the next person won't have to deal with the mess you may have made.
This may sound corny but you should screen your dates before actually going out with them. Meet them for a walk or something that doesn't really cost anything. Have an over the phone chat or chat online first to see where there head is at. Again I admit my guilt in the free meal dating .. I don't do it anymore because its just as much of a waste of my time as it is the gentleman taking me out.
AND .. the dating game is the men's fault as much as it is the women's. For years women have been getting played and finally flipped the script and now you men are sitting in our shoes and you are finding out that the shit ain't cute! I'm not saying that its right but its reality. Sounds like you guys need to spend a little more time looking for quality women and not a quick piece of ass. There are plenty of us good women out here my darlings, don't give up.
ES true story. But that is too much to ask in these selfish days.
STS the problem with screening your dates (by the way I do that) is women want to call a man cheap!!
Can yall make up your mind please
Dakim .. maybe I am just a different kind of woman .. I have no problem with the screening process .. I like doing outdoors stuff .. I ride my bike on the weekends 8-10 miles a day, I like going to the gym, you guys have moutains up there, go for a walk .. where is your imagination?? .. maybe you aren't dating the right kind of women ..
Idk .. maybe the women in Atlanta are different. I give up ..
Well said STS... Men should take Women out on free dates and have telephone conversation before taking US to dinner and the movie. They should also be acceptable to a Women wanting to pay for either the dinner or the movie. That's what people do on dates.
hmmm I'm not paying for first dates, I think thats the problem with some women. We have become to independent in some ways.
I think that men are just lazy. I was talking to another guy about the same thing the other day. I think that woman make it easy we dont make a man have to work to get our attention. I mean we trying to be 50/50 these days paying for our own meals and all that bs. I aint with it I mean really can you open the door for me and at least pay for the first date I mean really whats up with that.
I can understand that everybody is hurting for money. But its alot of things out there that we can do for lil or nothing, think outside the box.
Thank you NJ .. I have even gone far enough to excuse myself to go to restroom and take care of the check .. No big deal. Like Neo said "She got her own .. "
So fellas .. how do you feel about that?? If we pay the check, yall feel like you should give it up?? Lmao
Girl, I really think they would feel used at that point.
It would depend if I ordered from the 'We Fucking' part of the menu. I ain't putting out for a grilled cheese. Now if I can have the grilled cheese AND an appetizer, you just may get lucky.
GS .. you know what is so amusing to me is that the men on here do so much talking about women .. but do not realize that they are saying the same things we are saying .. Its a parallel universe people .. what goes up will eventually come down .. HA!
Easy .. you name is misleading..lol. What would you do for a lil soup and salad???
I have too STS... I have sent drinks across the bar back in the days.
Thanks also to NEO. There are plenty of women out there that does exactly what he is singing about..
U have to give in order to receive good things.
For the Men here, Do you feel used when you are taken care of by a Women? Please answer honestly.
GS you cheap.. cheap.. cheap.. LOl. thats you don't want to pay
STS - if I eat on that side of the menu.. it's on a popping.. Do you think I am giving up the family jewels for some hot wings and a coke.. LOL..
NJGUDGIRL - I only feel used when she asked me for sex afterwards.. LOL..
It all depends on the presentation. So women do things for men but if they don't get the response they expected they throw it in your face
Dakim... So if she doesn't ask you for sex that night, but the conversation was gr8, would you call her the next night?
hold you.. she paid for my meal and I didn't have to give up any. I would wait two days. Don't want her to think I am sprung..LOL
Lmao .. Dakim, GS is not cheap, she is just a woman that goes about doing her thing, her way .. nothing wrong with that. There is no right or wrong way to doing certain things.
And if all I can afford to feef you is hot wings and coke .. you will give it up and I will tell you why. We wouldn't go in the middle of the week .. I would treat you on Sunday or Monday night, at a sports bar. While you watching the game and sucking the meat off them bones, I will be paying 1/2 price beer and appetizers .. watching you lick sauce off your finger .. plotting the whole time .. HA HA HA
That's how you do it STS......
We as Women sure do know how to budget our money and have a good time... Work Like a Boss and Play Like a Boss...
Lmao...
STS either you have brothers or your not really from FL..
That was good, but if you feed me half price game or not. I am going to reconize you were only playing me and to get these juggernuts.. You need to spend.. LOL..
game recongnize game !!!!
Nope, I wouldn't feel used 1 bit. At what point was I usee? Now if I let her take care of me, and I ain't feeling her and she dropping hints about another getting some later that night, and I just bounced out the car halfway up my driveway and said 'Be safe' as I am closing my door..she should feel used.
Why is it "game"?? We are just on a budget... We are too (I am too)old for GAME... Did that back in the good old days.. Now, Im trying to get a good honest relationship. Strictly honest conversations and true happiness. Is something wrong with that?
Easyrider... U WRONG... But right she would/should know. You gave her honest details...
Dakim .. I think that Vitamin C said it best .. "I know what boys like" .. Ha. Game recoginizes game is just a saying .. otherwise we wouldn't be on here bitchin and moanin about the opposite sex ..
AND .. I told you I was from CT SON!!! Don't start your comments either .. my father and I were very close, he talked to me about a lot of things .. my brother was just a bully, but he did put me on to music :)
STS - CT I am going to leave you alone if you promise to keep NY works where they belong in NY.. YA DIG !!!! Were created SON.. hahaha
Dakim .. don't fight me on this.
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