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If this person's ex was a cut buddy, they are fair game. There were no feelings involved just sex, heck yeah !
Now if it was a relationship considering we are not in high school anymore, why not, if ample time has passed like a couple of years, and you and this person connect on a higher level, let the juices flow. Appearently it wasn't in the books for them to be together, and you may miss out on your husband or wife.
YOU shady!!!..... I think that anybody that has had a relationship with one of your friends is not up for grabs, its like you already have the playbook for that person, your never going to start off on a clean slate, and I feel like its not fair to your friend or there feelings. If that is a road that you choose to go down you have to understand that will loose your friendship in the process so I hope that person is what you really want....
SHADY ! wow, they are over ! My friend would have moved on by this point and if we are truly friends a woman would never come between us. Is it fair I limit my opportunities, there is nothing to indicate that I was watching her piece prior to them breaking up ! Goldstar sounds like you may have done this in the past
Well I have mixed feelings on this one, because I feel if years have went by and you and a ex-friend of your ex has moved on then I feel no one should have a problem. Say for instance, you dated some on in high school and you meet up with your high school girlfriend/boyfreind now and they are not friends any longer and your compatable. Why shouldn't you get together. You will be limiting yourself. So really what your saying your not going to talk to anyone that was ever associated with your pas relationship. Which, is ridiculous
I think feel if your friend had a serious relationship with that person and she told you everything about it ( the up and the downs ) then it wouldnt be fair to the friendship... I dont care how long ago it was in the past.
And Dakim no this hasnt happen to me cause us women know the deal....
goldenstar... i agree w/you. I don't want anything that a friend of mine has had a relationship with this year or 10 years ago. We are friends I know their entire history and probably have given advice on what to do to keep/ditch the person. That's their leftover and I don't do leftover w/food so I am not going to do it w/private parts.
To njgudgrl, from another nj2atl girl...i agree with you and goldenstar. I think it's the unspoken code that women, generally, have...NEVER TOUCH YOUR FRIENDS OR EX-FRIENDS MATES! It's one thing if you never knew an ex that your friend once had...and you start dating (I'd be weirded out by that too...but that less "illegal"...no one's gonna hate ya for dat).
I think it's easier for men (Dakim)to do that sort of thing anyway...cuz somehow, ya'll generally just don't care or it's not that big of a deal. For most women...it's a NO, NO.
for the two NJGirls and Krock, yall are probably both single, because if your like me and have many friends, then half of the world is off limits. Yall are still taking high school antics to adult life. People may have moved etc. FYI when most left over food has had an opportunity for the flavor to really get into the food, remember somebodies trash maybe someones treasure. And if your friend let a good one go aparently it was their lost and my gain.
I have seen this situation play out more than thrice, and rarely does it end well. Should they be strictly off limits, naw, but you gotta have an understanding with your friend, that he/she will not be the topic of ANY conversation. You also need to be prepared for that friend to distance themselves and become a close acquaintance. Also the circumstances surrounding how you and that person hooked up may be a factor. Time doesn't heal all wounds, but it can fade the scars a little.
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If this person's ex was a cut buddy, they are fair game. There were no feelings involved just sex, heck yeah !
Now if it was a relationship considering we are not in high school anymore, why not, if ample time has passed like a couple of years, and you and this person connect on a higher level, let the juices flow. Appearently it wasn't in the books for them to be together, and you may miss out on your husband or wife.
YOU shady!!!..... I think that anybody that has had a relationship with one of your friends is not up for grabs, its like you already have the playbook for that person, your never going to start off on a clean slate, and I feel like its not fair to your friend or there feelings. If that is a road that you choose to go down you have to understand that will loose your friendship in the process so I hope that person is what you really want....
SHADY ! wow, they are over ! My friend would have moved on by this point and if we are truly friends a woman would never come between us. Is it fair I limit my opportunities, there is nothing to indicate that I was watching her piece prior to them breaking up ! Goldstar sounds like you may have done this in the past
Well I have mixed feelings on this one, because I feel if years have went by and you and a ex-friend of your ex has moved on then I feel no one should have a problem. Say for instance, you dated some on in high school and you meet up with your high school girlfriend/boyfreind now and they are not friends any longer and your compatable. Why shouldn't you get together. You will be limiting yourself. So really what your saying your not going to talk to anyone that was ever associated with your pas relationship. Which, is ridiculous
I think feel if your friend had a serious relationship with that person and she told you everything about it ( the up and the downs ) then it wouldnt be fair to the friendship... I dont care how long ago it was in the past.
And Dakim no this hasnt happen to me cause us women know the deal....
goldenstar... i agree w/you. I don't want anything that a friend of mine has had a relationship with this year or 10 years ago. We are friends I know their entire history and probably have given advice on what to do to keep/ditch the person. That's their leftover and I don't do leftover w/food so I am not going to do it w/private parts.
To njgudgrl, from another nj2atl girl...i agree with you and goldenstar. I think it's the unspoken code that women, generally, have...NEVER TOUCH YOUR FRIENDS OR EX-FRIENDS MATES! It's one thing if you never knew an ex that your friend once had...and you start dating (I'd be weirded out by that too...but that less "illegal"...no one's gonna hate ya for dat).
I think it's easier for men (Dakim)to do that sort of thing anyway...cuz somehow, ya'll generally just don't care or it's not that big of a deal. For most women...it's a NO, NO.
Miss T
for the two NJGirls and Krock, yall are probably both single, because if your like me and have many friends, then half of the world is off limits. Yall are still taking high school antics to adult life. People may have moved etc. FYI when most left over food has had an opportunity for the flavor to really get into the food, remember somebodies trash maybe someones treasure. And if your friend let a good one go aparently it was their lost and my gain.
I have seen this situation play out more than thrice, and rarely does it end well. Should they be strictly off limits, naw, but you gotta have an understanding with your friend, that he/she will not be the topic of ANY conversation. You also need to be prepared for that friend to distance themselves and become a close acquaintance. Also the circumstances surrounding how you and that person hooked up may be a factor. Time doesn't heal all wounds, but it can fade the scars a little.
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