Give your opinion on my friend should do and is she a bad parent?
My friend has 2 sons 14 and 18. Her 14 yr old got caught stealing a couple of times and now she has to go to court as if she is a bad parent for crimes he has committed. The 18yr old just granduated from High School and she threw a party where drinking and smoking(weed) was allowed. What advice do you have for her? Should she be responsible for the 14yr old actions? Is she a bad parent for allowing her 18yr old to drink?
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The parenting skills of this parent are questionable. What did the parent do after the 14 yr old got caught stealing the first time? How could she allow drinking/smoking? These are both illegal for an 18 yr old and smoking weed is illegal period! No parent has all answers when it comes to parenting but it appears that she's not steering her children in the right direction and not setting a good example. I therefore believe she is not a good parent and needs to maybe ask for some help and get positive mentors in her children's lives, as she is not one herself!
I definitely agree with anonymous. I am not a parent but I had limits set and when i was 18 I was allowed to have a beer but NO DRUGS and the drinking was supervised. I definitely think parenting has something to do here when you have an 18 year old burning and drinking and a 14 year old stealing. Sounds like someone is trying to be more of a friend than a parent here.
I feel the 14 yr old is at an age where he needs to go to juvy. I think if he has been caught more than once then she has tried to disclipine but he maybe at an uncontrollable age. But no way should the parent be responsible for an unruly child at 14 because he knows right from wrong. The 18yr shouldn't be drinking but isn't he grown in the eyes of the law?
wow! before i respond there are some question one would have to ask him/herself. foremost, parenting. is this a single parent and if so, were both her parents involved in her growth and development? during that period did she encounter or get away with misconduct and had no regard for rules? does parenting begin at conception or at the point when you feel your child is capable or understands the consequence of his/her actions? these are just a few.
also, what about the comment, "The 18yr old just
granduated from High School and she threw a party where drinking
and smoking(weed) was allowed." Who threw the party? The parent or the 18yr old. If the 18 yr old threw the party then this would be something outside of parenting and more so under freedoms. if the parent threw the party, then we have a bigger issue, which further leads to ongoing impacts within society and our tolerance.
Dakim, how can you say at the age of 14 it shouldnt be on the parent... See thats the problem at that age I think its really important to give your child that guidance because of the peer pressure and everything else that's going on with kids today.... As fas as your friend I think she needs to get a little parenting 101.... Everything that is happening I think is a product of there environment..
The 14yr old have been in trouble a few times and the parent (yes single) feels like she has done all there is too do. She is the the point where basically she wants to wash her hands. There is but so much punishment you can do and with societies rules your unable to beat your kids without reprecussions. So at this point he knows exactly what he is doing, so why should a parent be responsible for his actions now ?
The parent threw a party for the 18yr old he thoughts are he is old enough to vote, join the military, drive, why cant he drink if it is an supervised setting (their back yard) She feels he is going to college and will do the samethings anyway, at least she can montior it.
folks there is still the issue of parenting. parenting does not stop at ANY age. responsibility is knowing the difference and the impact it creates followed by the consequence, whether you accept the action or deny it. as for being a products of our environment, that is an excuse within itself. we (people) can not continue to say our environment dictates what we do, or how we live. if so, where does free moral agency come in to play. we have a right and that right is to chose what and how we not only interpret life, but how we live it and the things we choose to engage in during that time. The 14, i would agree needs to feel and see the judgement in his CHOICE to steal. If he done it once, maybe he is doing it again because there was no real punishment involved. the 18 yr old...(LOL) man lets just say I would have gotten teh beat down for even thinking it, especially if i was still under my moms roof. going off to college, okay. this may be something he engages in, but it is under his own consent, which likely based on the decision and how much he consumes would lead to situations where once again he CHOICE led him to.
just my thought.
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