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Emotional cheating...plain and simple the body is there but the mind ain't. You are keeping time with a person but basically waiting for something better to come along. On the other side of the same coin it could considered emotional cheating when one person is giving everyone else their time and attention except for the person they are with.
My perspective...emotional cheating can be two fold. The receiver being subject to deal with mental, biological, and physiological impacts igniting the negative aspects of emotion. The initiator, careless, selfish, physically drawn by interaction or appearance. Keep in mind...we allow what we want and fail to understand what we need to reject. Life, imagery, and experience dictate more then we think.
In my onion, emotional cheating in a relationship is the act of giving and expressing your inner most feelings with someone else rather than your companion. It detaches you emotionally from your companion and connects you emotionally to another source.
Emotional cheating sometimes occurs because of a lack of communication or some form of detachment. Emotions that were once given to your companion are now poured into another source and vice versa. An emotional connection is a strong bond that is fed through the communication of feelings, wants, desires, goals, laughter and truth.
We all need emotional outlets whether you find it in your companion or else where. The downfall is when an emotional attachment has been created with the wrong outlet it can lead to physical cheating and more. It can begin with just a listening ear that’s there all the time to absorb your feelings. Overall, I do believe an outside emotional outlet may be needed sometimes but one has to select an appropriate outlet to avoid emotional cheating.
The safest emotional outlet is GOD? With him as your source and outlet he will direct your path and guide your emotions.
I think whenever you share personal issues about your relationship with another party of the opposite sex thats emotional cheating. Your letting another woman or man know to much about you emotionally which gets you detached from your mate.
I don't see where talking to someone about your situation will necessarily lead to physical cheating, I do see where it can lead to a rift forming in the relationship because someone has more information on the situation than your partner. Now, if you have had the same conversation (or covered the same issues) with your partner and then need to bounce the issue off a trusted confident, I don't really see where that constitutes emotional cheating. You are just looking for a fresh perspective on the problem/situation.
Emotional Cheating! People be for real, there is no such thing. According to Webster; Cheating - to be sexually unfaithful.
I read others comments that discussing personal issues or spending time with someone other than you mate is Emotional Cheating. So if you talk to or hang out with your home-boys or home-girls then you're Emotionally Cheating on your mate? Ridiculous!
Everyone needs an outlet other than their mate. You can't share everything that you think or feel with your mate, that's impossible.
I think emotional cheating is some mess Dr. Phil created! Can emotional cheating be thinking an actor or a singer is attractive? Is having fantasies and or thoughts about someone else emotional cheating? I mean where do we draw the line?
I think having inappropriate relationships on the internet may qualify as emotional cheating. But beyond that I think we are all emotional cheaters in one way or another.
the way I understand Emotional cheating is having intimacy without sex with someone other than...say your girl friend or wife. Spending more time with that other girl, without having sex. she becomes more than a friend and takes all the time reserved for your wife/girlfriend away.
so by default (and using your limited definition) holding in the NFL is not cheating because someone is not being sexually unfaithful? Going on a date is not cheating so long as it doesn't have a 'happy ending'?
I feel emotional cheating is cause by strong emotions and wrong choics. People get so upset with there companion they take there anger out on them by going DL with someone other than there spouse. So in a nut shell your emotions lead you to cheat and got the best of you.
My opininon.. when the conversation crosses the line where you're discussing intimate details about each other. Imaging and talking about hypothetical things relating to each other.
anonymous? I am curious? Follow my thought or should I say your thought. You initial response was "In my onion, emotional cheating in a relationship is the act of giving and expressing your inner most feelings with someone else rather than your companion." Now you say, "Emotional Cheating! People be for real, there is no such thing. According to Webster; Cheating - to be sexually unfaithful." Webster considers cheating to be sexually unfaithful. Is there no emotion sexually? If you say no, then explain our reactions to changes, impacts, experiences (good and bad). Please do not take my response combative, I am just one who believes our opinions, judgements, and decision are clouded by social exchange and backgrounds, myself included. I say this, as I feel there is no such thing as cheating outside a marriage - sexually; if so, explain emotional/mental/physical cheating between you and GOD before marriage. There are several variances to cheating when applied to different apsects in our lives, individual or collective.
I don't understand looking for a fresh perspective. If thats the case then why do you need your partner? If you need an outside influence to help whats on the inside.
We all need an outlet BUT LET THAT OUTLET BE SOMEONE OF THE SAME SEX !
At the end of the day you made a conscious decision to allow someone into your personal space which is reserved for your significant other.
a fresh perspective as in you are too involved in a situation to see the error in your own ways. Maybe you wanna meld into the couch on Sunday and watch NFL Sunday Ticket and try and see all 16 NFL games where she may wanna do God knows what. I see no fault in watching all the games, you may see no fault in it because its what you do, but by asking someone else, they may actually see something wrong with it and side with her.
I think emotional cheating is when you know that your intensions is to be unfaithful and you use the mind to get closer or build a relationship with the opposite sex that's not your mate.
man please...... I think that emotional cheating has nothing to do with the sexual act, if my mate was talking about all our problems/business with a co-worker etc, I would consider it cheating I'm sorry, its not like its a old friend or somebody that has known u"s", they are just seating there listening to a one sided story.... which opens up doors...
The only door that can be open is the one you decide to open. We all know cheating is cheating, no matter how we try to define it. Society and some our fake studio DR's create these labels to give people and excuse to justify what they are doing CHEATING. Like good ole Bill Clinton tried to justify oral sex according to the definition listed in Websters.
True, when its broken down to its very last compound, its all binary. You are either cheating or you aren't cheating, there is no grey area, no margin of error.
Emotional Cheating is exactly what it is, you are cheating emotionally. You are engaging in activity that you are not doing with your mate. If you have to hide then your cheating. Your mate or God should be the one you share your most inner thought if your in an a meaningful relationship.
Well from a person who was in what could be considered and emotional cheating relationship I think its plain out cheating and the reason is in the mind of the person being cheated on they stil feel slighted and betrayed.
In the situation I was in, me and this female shared everything and she even admitted that i provided things emotionally she wished her husband did. We never got sexual with out situation but our emotional interaction was not right, ethical, morally correct, whatever you call it. I felt a connection to her that i couldnt have with my current girlfriend at the time and felt that i had my girl for the physical and my buddy for the emotional. Im not saying its right but its definitely there.
In the end her husband knew of our closeness and the only thing that didnt make him want to cut my throat was that we never took it physical but he definitely resented the fact we had such a close emotional bond. So if it sparks that kinds of jealousy and resentment it has to be wrong ergo cheating.
I've heard this too often. Even been accused of cheating myself because some of my emails or even chats left more to the imagination but were all in fun. Bottom line is as women and men black of course we go out on a limb in some instances and it could be just for the thrill of the chase and over time the pineapple goes sour meaning (It wasnt what you thought it would be or somewhere you stopped feeling important or wanted). Im not saying that love has been lost just interest, ambition and desire may fizzle due to lack of attention or even affection. We start off stong and long and eventually it can deminish and what started off as a California wild fire simmers down to just a quick snack on the George Foreman. We live in a world of Independence where we dont need one another or so we think.
Didnt want to hide behind blinds. This was my original Blog now you have a name to go with the thought.
I've heard this too often. Even been accused of cheating myself because some of my emails or even chats left more to the imagination but were all in fun. Bottom line is as women and men black of course we go out on a limb in some instances and it could be just for the thrill of the chase and over time the pineapple goes sour meaning (It wasnt what you thought it would be or somewhere you stopped feeling important or wanted). Im not saying that love has been lost just interest, ambition and desire may fizzle due to lack of attention or even affection. We start off stong and long and eventually it can deminish and what started off as a California wild fire simmers down to just a quick snack on the George Foreman. We live in a world of Independence where we dont need one another or so we think.
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Emotional cheating...plain and simple the body is there but the mind ain't. You are keeping time with a person but basically waiting for something better to come along. On the other side of the same coin it could considered emotional cheating when one person is giving everyone else their time and attention except for the person they are with.
My perspective...emotional cheating can be two fold. The receiver being subject to deal with mental, biological, and physiological impacts igniting the negative aspects of emotion. The initiator, careless, selfish, physically drawn by interaction or appearance. Keep in mind...we allow what we want and fail to understand what we need to reject. Life, imagery, and experience dictate more then we think.
In my onion, emotional cheating in a relationship is the act of giving and expressing your inner most feelings with someone else rather than your companion. It detaches you emotionally from your companion and connects you emotionally to another source.
Emotional cheating sometimes occurs because of a lack of communication or some form of detachment. Emotions that were once given to your companion are now poured into another source and vice versa. An emotional connection is a strong bond that is fed through the communication of feelings, wants, desires, goals, laughter and truth.
We all need emotional outlets whether you find it in your companion or else where. The downfall is when an emotional attachment has been created with the wrong outlet it can lead to physical cheating and more. It can begin with just a listening ear that’s there all the time to absorb your feelings. Overall, I do believe an outside emotional outlet may be needed sometimes but one has to select an appropriate outlet to avoid emotional cheating.
The safest emotional outlet is GOD? With him as your source and outlet he will direct your path and guide your emotions.
I think whenever you share personal issues about your relationship with another party of the opposite sex thats emotional cheating. Your letting another woman or man know to much about you emotionally which gets you detached from your mate.
I don't see where talking to someone about your situation will necessarily lead to physical cheating, I do see where it can lead to a rift forming in the relationship because someone has more information on the situation than your partner. Now, if you have had the same conversation (or covered the same issues) with your partner and then need to bounce the issue off a trusted confident, I don't really see where that constitutes emotional cheating. You are just looking for a fresh perspective on the problem/situation.
Emotional Cheating! People be for real, there is no such thing. According to Webster; Cheating - to be sexually unfaithful.
I read others comments that discussing personal issues or spending time with someone other than you mate is Emotional Cheating. So if you talk to or hang out with your home-boys or home-girls then you're Emotionally Cheating on your mate? Ridiculous!
Everyone needs an outlet other than their mate. You can't share everything that you think or feel with your mate, that's impossible.
I think emotional cheating is some mess Dr. Phil created! Can emotional cheating be thinking an actor or a singer is attractive? Is having fantasies and or thoughts about someone else emotional cheating? I mean where do we draw the line?
I think having inappropriate relationships on the internet may qualify as emotional cheating. But beyond that I think we are all emotional cheaters in one way or another.
the way I understand Emotional cheating is having intimacy without sex with someone other than...say your girl friend or wife. Spending more time with that other girl, without having sex. she becomes more than a friend and takes all the time reserved for your wife/girlfriend away.
so by default (and using your limited definition) holding in the NFL is not cheating because someone is not being sexually unfaithful? Going on a date is not cheating so long as it doesn't have a 'happy ending'?
I feel emotional cheating is cause by strong emotions and wrong choics. People get so upset with there companion they take there anger out on them by going DL with someone other than there spouse. So in a nut shell your emotions lead you to cheat and got the best of you.
"emotinal cheating"
My opininon.. when the conversation crosses the line where you're discussing intimate details about each other. Imaging and talking about hypothetical things relating to each other.
anonymous? I am curious? Follow my thought or should I say your thought. You initial response was "In my onion, emotional cheating in a relationship is the act of giving and expressing your inner most feelings with someone else rather than your companion." Now you say, "Emotional Cheating! People be for real, there is no such thing. According to Webster; Cheating - to be sexually unfaithful." Webster considers cheating to be sexually unfaithful. Is there no emotion sexually? If you say no, then explain our reactions to changes, impacts, experiences (good and bad). Please do not take my response combative, I am just one who believes our opinions, judgements, and decision are clouded by social exchange and backgrounds, myself included. I say this, as I feel there is no such thing as cheating outside a marriage - sexually; if so, explain emotional/mental/physical cheating between you and GOD before marriage. There are several variances to cheating when applied to different apsects in our lives, individual or collective.
Demric, I think there is more than 1 person posting as anonymous
I don't understand looking for a fresh perspective. If thats the case then why do you need your partner? If you need an outside influence to help whats on the inside.
We all need an outlet BUT LET THAT OUTLET BE SOMEONE OF THE SAME SEX !
At the end of the day you made a conscious decision to allow someone into your personal space which is reserved for your significant other.
Is it really emotional cheating if the other person is open enough to tell you what they are doing?
a fresh perspective as in you are too involved in a situation to see the error in your own ways. Maybe you wanna meld into the couch on Sunday and watch NFL Sunday Ticket and try and see all 16 NFL games where she may wanna do God knows what. I see no fault in watching all the games, you may see no fault in it because its what you do, but by asking someone else, they may actually see something wrong with it and side with her.
I think emotional cheating is when you know that your intensions is to be unfaithful and you use the mind to get closer or build a relationship with the opposite sex that's not your mate.
man please...... I think that emotional cheating has nothing to do with the sexual act, if my mate was talking about all our problems/business with a co-worker etc, I would consider it cheating I'm sorry, its not like its a old friend or somebody that has known u"s", they are just seating there listening to a one sided story.... which opens up doors...
The only door that can be open is the one you decide to open. We all know cheating is cheating, no matter how we try to define it. Society and some our fake studio DR's create these labels to give people and excuse to justify what they are doing CHEATING. Like good ole Bill Clinton tried to justify oral sex according to the definition listed in Websters.
True, when its broken down to its very last compound, its all binary. You are either cheating or you aren't cheating, there is no grey area, no margin of error.
Emotional Cheating is exactly what it is, you are cheating emotionally. You are engaging in activity that you are not doing with your mate. If you have to hide then your cheating. Your mate or God should be the one you share your most inner thought if your in an a meaningful relationship.
Well from a person who was in what could be considered and emotional cheating relationship I think its plain out cheating and the reason is in the mind of the person being cheated on they stil feel slighted and betrayed.
In the situation I was in, me and this female shared everything and she even admitted that i provided things emotionally she wished her husband did. We never got sexual with out situation but our emotional interaction was not right, ethical, morally correct, whatever you call it. I felt a connection to her that i couldnt have with my current girlfriend at the time and felt that i had my girl for the physical and my buddy for the emotional. Im not saying its right but its definitely there.
In the end her husband knew of our closeness and the only thing that didnt make him want to cut my throat was that we never took it physical but he definitely resented the fact we had such a close emotional bond. So if it sparks that kinds of jealousy and resentment it has to be wrong ergo cheating.
You can call me anonymous3 for reply sake.
I've heard this too often. Even been accused of cheating myself because some of my emails or even chats left more to the imagination but were all in fun. Bottom line is as women and men black of course we go out on a limb in some instances and it could be just for the thrill of the chase and over time the pineapple goes sour meaning (It wasnt what you thought it would be or somewhere you stopped feeling important or wanted). Im not saying that love has been lost just interest, ambition and desire may fizzle due to lack of attention or even affection. We start off stong and long and eventually it can deminish and what started off as a California wild fire simmers down to just a quick snack on the George Foreman. We live in a world of Independence where we dont need one another or so we think.
Just My Two Cents
Didnt want to hide behind blinds. This was my original Blog now you have a name to go with the thought.
I've heard this too often. Even been accused of cheating myself because some of my emails or even chats left more to the imagination but were all in fun. Bottom line is as women and men black of course we go out on a limb in some instances and it could be just for the thrill of the chase and over time the pineapple goes sour meaning (It wasnt what you thought it would be or somewhere you stopped feeling important or wanted). Im not saying that love has been lost just interest, ambition and desire may fizzle due to lack of attention or even affection. We start off stong and long and eventually it can deminish and what started off as a California wild fire simmers down to just a quick snack on the George Foreman. We live in a world of Independence where we dont need one another or so we think.
Just My Two Cents
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