I was married for 14yrs, BEEN HAPPILY DIVORCED FOR 2YRS. People always ask after all those years you should have made it work or just stayed together.
Should you stick around for the children's sake ?
When or how do you know it's time to end a toxic relationship?
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Miss T aka Anonymous 1...once again. You should NEVER stick around for the children's sake...c'mon. Children should see mom/dad as people that can work together/communicate/be a team, if they're going to be under the same roof...this sets an example of a healthy family. It's good to show children how mom/dad work out disagreements as well. When you no longer can do that, it's better to separate.
Most of us who have had a few relationships know when it's time to end it. Sometimes it might take a while because the other party isn't showing their true selves but when you see something that doesn't sit well with you morally or doesn't line up with your own values...YOU NEED TO LEAVE IT ALONE! A big problem, I see, and have done myself, is that the more time you stay in the toxicity the harder it is to get out. At that point, you have to get sick and tired of being sick and tired to leave.
Miss T, I agree with your comment. I also feel at the beginning of the relationship we should look for signs. If their jealous as the beginning that is toxic because it can only get worse and will turn into "I own you". Also, when you find your playing detective it's time to go.
I don't understand 'Sticking together for the kid's sake'. What are the kids loosing? It is possible to raise well adjusted kids without having both parents in the home. Just like you can have some phuqued up kids because 'mom and dad stuck it out for the kids sake' but argued, fussed and raised hell constantly.
Seems to me from experience a toxic relationship is more a measure of how much suffering you are willing to accept and endure. When you reach your breaking point is when you finally have to exorcise the demon and cut your losses. You may not want to accept that you just wasted X months/years, but you finally see that all you doing is spinning your wheels and sinking deeper in the mud.
define toxic? elaborate on relationship. if i am married does that still count as a relationship?
Yes marriage is still a relationship. Toxic, when you don't want to come home, spend days not speaking, unable to communicate without a shouting match.
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