Daughter update

I have decided not to allow my daughter and her BF to live with me. Mainly because they aren't married and I don't want to force them into marriage. I suggested she move in with me or her mother and he live with his mother. They set a goal and save to get a place. Her comment was that could take a couple of years. So, they have decided to stay in his mother's apt which will be over crowded. Hey your making a grown up decision, that is your choice. That's how I see it. I told them I still love her and will help them where I can. Thanks everyone for they comments and suggestions.

Happy Thanks Giving !!!

What are your plans? Are you cooking, spending it with family? What are some the memorable Thanks Giving you have had?

what would you do to maintain your lifestyle

Considering we are in a recession and some people have acquired a lavish life style.
Would you rob and steal to maintain your life style and support your family?

Pardon Me

Hey pardon me for not posting. Been concerned with getting laid off, my mental wasn't there. Also, I was cheating on yall. LOL..

I posted some things on ISEECOLOR.COM (check me out on marriage minded singles) or just look up Dakim

Traditional Dating

We know this question came from a woman. LOL

What happened to traditional dating? Why guys dont like to take women on dates anymore? what's up with that?

Ladies do you agree with this question?

Why date someone single

My friend said her and her husband were playing and he asked if they separated would she has fun with someone else. She said yes and his feelings were hurt.

If a man and women are separated is it ok to have "FUN" with someone else? and if asked by the ex should they tell?

Why Women can't hang?

We all have opinions about ppl. Now my point of saying women can't hang is because guys don't really care what you sporting, be in competition, and gossip about each other. Men don't care about how many brothas you got sniffin up your ass. Men don't smile at you then talk about you when you leave the room. Those are the things I was referencing to. Women are in constant competition and I don't know why. We have to get our hair done, nails done, heels on, tight jeans, and what ever else to feel like something. Why can't we just come to chill in sweats and not care about how stylish we look?


Is this possible?

Create your historic Day

Obama being elected was a historic moment in time. If you could create your own historic moment or national day (outside of having kids).. What would it be?

Can someone take whats yours

I think everyone has been cheated on before. Remember the song by salt and pepper "I'll take your man". My question is can another person really take your man or woman?

Love and Trust

Do you think you can Love and be in a relationship with someone that you don't trust?

What would you do if you could get away?

We talk about all the things we would do if someone gets laid off.

What would you do if you knew you could get away?

Obama/Biden

Why is the ultra conservative right wing GOP acting as though the world is coming to an end because they lost the election?

Are the flipping out because they have lost their strangle hold on governmental power or are they flipping out because they lost their power to a non-caucasian?

The Clinton/Gore ticket defeated 16 yrs of GOP presidency and the uproar was no where near the level it is now. Obama/Biden defeated 8 yrs of GOP lunacy and right wing GOP are claiming everything from he is not a natural born US Citizen to he is setting the US for invasion and is taking away the 2nd Amendment.

Layoffs

We are all facing layoffs. What are you going to do if you get laid off?

Domestic Violence

I just found out my friend in NY stabbed his sisters BF because he was beating her.
The crazy thing is she is mad at him.

If you knew a friend in a violent situation. How far would you go to help them?

Making Love?

What words do you want to hear during lovemaking?

In not into YOU !

When is a man just not into a women?

Ladies can you recognize game?

LOVE

Do you think Love is all two poeple need to get through the difficult things?

STOP WHINING

I saw this post on another blog but it is very true!!!

" I'm tired of women nagging and whining. If you want to know why we don't respond to how you "communicate" with us it’s because we don’t have the secret decoder gene or time to decode chick. Stop whining. Stop nagging. We don't respond because we tune you out. As soon as you hit that...umm...tone....and every man knows...THAT TONE.."

Yall sound like a pitbull in the rain..

Fellas I know yall can relate to this one

Why does sex stop

Question.. Most married people or people that have been in a long time relationship say sex drastically stops.. Can anyone tell me why?

Why woman change

Why is it that when a black woman get involved with a man, she changes her whole personality

A friend of mine, was so stuck on not liking R Kelly, "oh he's a molester, etc, etc"
Now this guy that she like plays his music and now he's a musical genius

What do you think

I heard this comment.. what are your thoughts.

"When a man acts like a child it forces his wife/girlfriend to act like a mother?

Peom

What do yall think of this poem I wrote...


Held in Time

I’m caught in a place
With a once familiar face
Memories of hugs and kisses
Now replaced with wishes
Of ONE HOUR of
Peace and Happiness
The Sun rises and sets
But I have yet
To see a change in me
Sitting in the drivers seat
Unable to move these cold feet
The fetal position has become the resting place for my soul
Wondering why we can’t stand and finish our goal
Scared to leave to this state of comfortable confusion
Keeping your heart warm for you,
Hold up that’s my heart, I still can’t tell the difference between the two
Mo’ betta blues, mo betta blues
Sam Cooke said a change is gonna come,
If I go with change then I will miss when you come!
So I just sit here held in time

I am grown

When does a man/woman becomes grown. Outside of age...

I talked to my 19 yr old about life this weekend and she insist she knows what she is doing because she is grown. LOL..

Then I met this girl who felt because she is lawyer she is grown..

Happiness vs Pleasure

Can someone explain the difference between the two?

I think it is often confused, people think I am happy because I got this new car or I got that girl/guy number.

What is wrong!!!!!!

Can someone tell what is wrong with women today. Why at our age, do women think they can still control a man with the pussy. If you are, he is a weak man. Still saying mess like you have to pay to play. Go play in the trash you might have better fun. If a man isn't going straight for some ass, they yall want to clasify him as "DL". Most women say they want a good man. But can't define what a good man is. Some can make a brother schizophrenic for all the hoops he goes through to win your affection. Woman say brothers have it good because it's 20:1. Actually, it harder because good men want quality. I usually ask women two questions "What can you pass on to us" and "Do you know where your going to" I think of Diana Ross song with that question. Give me your thoughts

My homeboy just got played by this woman, She told he he was too nice. She knows she has his heart, so she plays the pussy card when she wants something from him.

who is to blame

My friend went on a weekend trip to DC with this guy. She knows he is extremely attracted to her. However, she told him she would go but she isn't interested in a relationship. But she has never been to DC, so she figured why not take a free trip. Dude said he was ok with that, just wanted to be in her presence. On the trip he took her shopping (we know how expensive DC and can be) and they went out dancing. As we all know he made a move for some sex the last night they were there. When she refused he got upset for a second and made reference to all the money he just spent on her. Needless to say they didn't speak the whole ride back to Atl. I told her she was wrong for going and added fuel to the fire by allowing him to spend money on her. That gave him hope. She feels, she told him there would be nothing and if he choose to spend money that's on him. What do you think?

Please Read

though we have a small victory…this is only one of many more battles that need to be fought. the race is not finished as we still have a long way to go. thus the reason I wanted to take time and share this….please read the article first…then view the presentation

http://www.theaustralian.news.com.au/story/0,25197,24606398-5013948,00.html

Congratulations Barack Obama !!!!!!!!

This is a historic moment in time.

How do you feel ? Did you doubt this day would come? Where do we go from here?

VOTE VOTE VOTE

Get Out and Vote TODAY ?

Finish this.. I vote because.....

Breaking UP

My cousin was with this girl for several years and now she has decided to move on. But he can't let go. He says he really loves her and doesn't want to give up on them.

Why is breaking up so hard to do?

Can you talk to your parent

My mom came to visit and we have a great relationship. It's so good, I can tell her when I have sex.

What type of relationship you have with your parents? What point did they accept you as an adult?

Grown and Sexy

We get the emails for grown and sexy party at this club and that spot. But when you get there it is the same ole people.

What makes a grown and sexy? Explain