Thursday, January 29, 2009
TO BE OR NOT TO BE
Do you feel that if you have been in a relationship for more then 3 years and marriage isnt part of the equation should you call it quites because where is it really heading are you just wasting your time? Couldnt that time and enegery be put into someone else that is ready to move forward.
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
16 comments:
Are you sure that marriage isn't part of the equation, or do you just feel that it's not coming about fast enough? Has the topic even been brought up, or is this a conversation you have had with everyone except the one person that you should be having it with?
I think each couple is different and some ppl aren't looking to get married. I think that a some point in the honeymoon stages of the relationship, the couple needs to sit down and make their intentions & desires known .. I think this will reduce the whole marriage anxiety
Sup ES..
I think people get caught in it isn't happening fast enough. Instead of looking at is the relationship moving forward or standing still.
Put the energy in someone that is ready to move forward but that person may not be ready to move with you or not what is good for you.
StS.. lets say you make your intentions known but it doesn't happen in two or three years do you leave or stick around until the day comes?
people come up with bs stuff like oh I wanna marry but my money aint right yet.... blah blah
I mean if you love someone why not make it work together.
If I was in a relationship I'm sure the subject of marriage did come up at some point. I think 5yrs would be my max. I think you should know by then whether or not you want to spend the rest of your life with a person. If a person I was considering dating told me straight up they never want to marry I probably would have just a platonic friendship with that person. It doesn't have anything to do with time spent on the relationship because every relationship doesn't have a lifetime guarantee.
I think that 'my money ain't right' line comes in play when someone knows they can't put that person in the place they want them to be or give them what they think they should have i.e. ring size, house size, financial stability. I don't think it's a line to keep the relationship from moving forward.
D .. most women want that dinner with the diamond in the glass of champagne but if I feel that I am ready and he is not taking that step I would sit him down and let him know how I feel. I would be honest and if he wasn't ready or decided that he didn't want the same thing .. well then I would have to make some choices .. if he doesn't want to get married then more than likely I will leave .. if he feels he is not ready .. I can work with that bc marriage is a big step ..
"Money ain't right" .. I do think that is a line especially when yall been shacking up for the past 5 yrs .. I mean, come on!
if you been shacking up for 5 yrs you already married anyway...right?
Not in the eyes of God and the law .. lol
right...
Besides Easy .. I want alimony, child support, pension fund, retirement plan, health & dental insurance PLUS that fat LIFE insurance policy in case he checks out before me DAWG! LOL
So any thoughts on the first gay divorce that is happening right now???
divorce, really...never saw that coming LOL. I wonder if they are going to petition and rally for the some special divorce rights.
IDK Easy .. saw on the News yesterday. If I were gay and we had to go thru all that crap to just to get married .. you gonna die with me .. and that's real!!!!
It depends on the person. If you are looking for marriage then maybe you should move on
Post a Comment