Tuesday, May 12, 2009
Titles
I was talking with my friend the other day and he stated that having a title is overrated. Whats the point of being boyfriend,girlfriend, nobody really believe in that stuff any more anyway. I was like wow.... so do you think that the older we become we look at things in a different light... I mean I do feel funny sometimes saying this is my boyfriend so so an so.... Are we all really just dating until we have ring?
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I think its kind odd when you are 30+ talking about 'This is my girlfriend' but I think that is how that other silly ass title 'significant other' came into play. Titles make people feel good about situations, but aren't really needed, its all in how you treat that person. You can call em your boyfriend/girlfriend shoot, call em your husband/wife, all day but treat em like shit, does it make it okay because you have the title? Tell you what, you take care of me like I take care of you and you can keep the title, I don't need it.
What's wrong with having a title?
I think you need to know where a relationship stands...Once that is established I think it's ok to have titles. Now what ever you want to call it is up to you. I mean if I am around and I am introduced as "the person you are dating" I will feel akward.
Lets understand just because you are spending some time with someone does not always equal girlfriend/boyfriend status. So you do need to have some type of title of what you are doing with that person.
Well, as was stated in American Pimp, even a pimp has his main girl, they call her the bottom bitch, is that a title that shows your place? I don't think the topic was asking if there was anything wrong with titles, it was simply asking are they necessary. They are cool to have at first, but after the novelty has worn off, its just something to make the other person feel good.
Novalty...LOL that's funny to think of it that way.
So in other words you only use it to please the "other" person as you say. It doesn't bother you either way what they think you are to them?
I believe you do need a title.. But that does not mean you need to wear it like a badge. You make it sound as if someone has it up in neon lights and flashing it for attention...
No, like I mentioned before, the title doesn't mean anything if you aren't being taken care of properly, but if you are being taken care of properly, what you are to that person is evident. At that point, if they want a title , thats fine, but its there to make them feel better, because it's changing how they are being treated. All a title does is establish a chain of command or heirachy
Im sorry but I disagree... I dunno I just feel like I treat ppl certain ways and they feel as though they have an unspoken title or meaning in my life and that is not the case. Sooo if I have not offered that to you don't think it. Thats why I feel its good to acknowledge the title but once it is done its done. There is no need advertise it. Not only that if I am making the other person feel good by calling them my baby or whatever than so be it. I may want to make them happy that way
How does that give chain of command or heiarchy?? Im confused on that one.
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